- 5 years ago
- Wedding: January 2017
Hello everyone! Regular bee going anonymous. Fi and I see this differently, and I’d like to know what you guys think, and what you would choose to do.
So here’s the deal:
Fi’s best friend’s wife is a photographer. She’s been in business for a couple years now, and has a limited portfolio. She’s done some incredible maternity and family shoots, but very few weddings. Fi wants to hire her for ours. I’m not sure that’s the beat idea, so we’ve been discussing pros and cons.
-She’s a friend. Her husband is fi’s best man. We’ve known her for 6 years, and she knows us very well, so connecting and communicating should be no problem!
-Our wedding will present an opportunity for some unique shots to add to her portfolio, and we’d love to help her build on it.
-Because she’s new, she charges less than some of the other more established photography businesses in our town.
-Our wedding is a semi-DW, so travelling will be necessary. We know she is willing to, and will be staying with us as a guest.
Now to the Cons:
-Last summer, we had to help her search the public park for a memory card containing another couple’s wedding photos that hadn’t been backed up or saved elsewhere. This was several days after the event, and she had planned to use the rest of the memory for another shoot. I know it was an accident, but she never found the card, and I would hate to suffer the same loss. This makes me nervous.
-She did another friend’s wedding. From her perspective, this bride was a ‘zilla, and another guest tried to take over, was constantly in the way, ruined several shots and stepped on quite a few toes. The bride’s side of the story goes that she had to be redirected several times, and had difficulty following directions and positioning herself properly to get those important shots. She simply struggled to keep up, and failed to prioritize photo opportunities. According to the B&G, she missed several important moments (like the groom and GMs getting ready) because she spent too much time shooting others. Her photos came out beautifully, but she excluded one of the groomsmen entirely from the ceremony pics, because she struggled to get the right angle. They were understandably frustrated, and advised us only to invite her as a guest. We saw their photos, and I can see what they were talking about… but they were taken 2 years ago. Fi blames it on the lack of experience, and is very confident in her skills. I love her, but I’m not… quite as confident.
-She’s our friend. I see this as mixing business with our personal life. The job of your wedding photographer is such an important one, and if anything went wrong, it could affect our relationship.
-Additionally, I don’t feel comfortable asking a guest to work on our wedding day. We want our friends to be able to relax, and we’re concerned she won’t be able to if she’s focused on photographing everything and running around all day (Fi agrees with me on this one.)
Fi and I have discussed all of these points, and he feels it would be rude not to ask her first. He wants as many friends as possible involveded in our wedding, and I feel it’s rude to put them to work. This is one of the only things fi really has an opinion about, and I want to respect his wishes. What do you think? Should we take the risk, have faith in our friend, and go for it? Or find someone else to do the job?