Post # 1
I wrote a post today based on an astounding post on Nancy Liu Chin’s blog (she’s an upscale floral designer but super honest about the nuts and bolts of the business and markups, etc). She breaks down what two inspiration tables she made for magazine shoots would actually cost to produce per table at a wedding – I’d never have guessed how ASTRONOMICALLY high they are (we’re talking nearly 1K per table for one look and that’s just the rentals and decorations for the table itself) for what looks like a lovely and expertly designed table but not completely over the top lavish. I conclude basically that wedding magazine images can be like fashion magazine images with unrealistically skinny models – fine if we completely accept that they’re fantasy and wish fulfillment, dangerous if we start wondering why we can’t live up (that would be because most of us don’t have 10,000 or more for JUST linens and centerpieces!)
Post # 3
Awesome blog entry! thanks for pointing it out! It’s really amazing what we spend our time pouring over…
Reality checks are good.
Post # 4
Thanks for linking to this – I think half the “problem” is that we as wedding guests see these magazines, too…and it affects what we come to expect.
Post # 5
One of the best pieces of advice I ever received from a friend who got married before me was to “put down the wedding magazines.” They give you such unrealistic expectations about weddings and you forget the reality of how 95% of them really are! I still looked through magazines constantly, even after my friend’s advice, but reminded myself always that a lot of the weddings featured in magazines could also have been featured on that “Platinum Weddings” show… and that we could never compete with that!
Post # 6
I need to STOP looking at them at this point too! It’s funny because the elements that are important to magazines – tiny details, that everything be perfectly coordinated visually, etc are SO not important to guests in their experience if even noticed. Guests appreciate and notice a warm fuzzy ceremony that they can hear, good music to dance to, not being too hot or too cold, not having to deal w hassles re: driving and parking, free flowing booze, good timing and flow to the reception, and food that isn’t terrible. I’m sure most of the magazine weddings also have those areas covered as they’re professionally coordinated, but whenever I go to weddings with those fantastic little details I honestly feel like i’m the only one noticing them. editors of course care because they’re the things that are visual, but i really feel like guests don’t. unless they’re the kind of guests who are addicted to wedding porn!!!
Post # 7
Great advice. Before getting engaged and officially planning our wedding I poured over Magazines & Inspiration boards, etc. When I started really planning I was still using these as guides and was feeling overwhelmed as each image was more and more amazing and no doubt costly. Now that I’m 4 months away from our wedding, I have almost completely stopped looking @ mags and inspiration boards and only using them when necessary with a vendor. I feel much better. Although I have a decent budget to work with, I have found many of these images to be unattainable and overwhelming.
Post # 8
Its so true. I actually gained most of my inspiration from sites like this as they are real brides with real money (or lack there of) it was more inspiring to see something that was classy on a budget. I used magazines to look at dresses but thats about it.
Post # 9
Eesh! That is why I’ve never bought a wedding magazine. I would be paying the magazine people to tell me I’m too poor for their “inspiration.” Being reminded of one’s general lack of wealth is soooo inspiring. 😛