(Closed) The rehersal dinner, but none of my family is going

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
474 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Im sorry that none of your family is going. That is the whole point of a rehersal dinner. I understand your mother not coming, but is there a way she can show up later?

Post # 5
1135 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

Traditionally, the rehearsal dinner includes the entire bridal party (groomsmen, bridesmaids, ushers, readers, singers, etc.) and family (however you choose to define that) so your bridal party should definitely be invited.  The rehearsal dinner is usually thrown by the groom’s family, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t invite whoever you want.  That would be like saying that since the wedding is usually hosted by the bride’s parents, the groom’s family can’t come.  Silly.  So just go ahead and let them know who is on your guest list for the rehearsal dinner, then go and enjoy!  It’s an evening that is about the two of you and about thanking the people that have helped with the wedding.  It’ll be fun!  And since someone else is planning it, it’s one less thing for you to worry about!

Post # 6
455 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Could you try talking to your FI/then have him talk to his Dad.


If you want to go but want to have your friends there: Have him start out conversation with “Oh we’re so excited.  We wanted somewhere to thank our guests for coming, and our friends for participating so this will give us that opportunity!”  If he says your friends aren’t invited say that’s to bad.  You’ll have to limit your time at this “welcome dinner” so that you can have some time to spend with your friends to show your appreciation. Or something

If you don’t want to go:  Have him be clear that you aren’t rehearsing, so you don’t feel the need to have a rehearsal dinner.  If they want to have a “welcome dinner” for their family you’d be happy to stop in and greet everyone.  However, since it’s the day before your wedding you’ll have stuff that needs to be done and won’t be able to stay the entire time.  Then enthusiastically thank hi.

Of course, most of the above assumes that your Fiance agrees with your feelings about the rehearsal.  You didn’t make it clear how your Fiance feels so it’s hard to give great advice.

So frustrating that you didn’t know about it till now.  :/  But I bet the intention is to include the bridal party – if he’s going with tradition that’s what rehearsal dinners are for.


Post # 8
257 posts
Helper bee

lol. you’re funny. usually the wedding party gets together in a celebration of the days events to come. they eat together and share laughs.. they rehears how who comes first, second, blah blah,  so and so stands here and then you come. Stuff like that.  We are not having a rehearsal dinner as… there is no bridal party….lol.  But you will enjoy it but they really should have asked if your mom or other family members could make it..

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