Post # 32
Aw this thread popped back up!
My Fiance picked out my center stone (which some specifics from me–not princess, not round, i *think* i want a radiant, and he came up with a cushion) and let me pick out whatever setting i wanted. i had my heart set on a specific style i saw online (which he knew), but it only came in a larger size in the store and he said it was totally ok if it’s what I really truly wanted. He pretty much just gave me free rein but I wasn’t going to be like, greedy or anything. He spent 15 months in Iraq (no taxes, no living expneses, etc) so he picked out the center he was comfortable spending his money on, knowing I still had a setting to choose (and i wanted a diamond setting) and a wedding band. And that we’d be paying for our own wedding. He gave me a budget for my wedding bands and we found them both (i wanted 2) for an amazing price. And for his, I didn’t have a budget. I told him I’d get him whatever he wanted. Luckily he doesn’t have elaborate taste for platinum or diamonds =]
Post # 33
I gave him a budget because I didn’t want him to spend so much on a ring. He told me that he went a little bit over because it was "a better value." With bargaining words like that, and a gorgeous ring, I was very pleased. I still refuse to know how much it actually cost though.
Post # 34
The ring search for him began about six months ago. And he very well may have almost paid it off or is close to doing so imho.
We had a discussion of what I’d like and he now knows the size. he knows what kind of look I want and he’s rather old fashioned. He is of course doing the budgeting for any ring!
Post # 35
He surprised me by buying the ring (though I knew when he bought it, ’cause he told me, but I didn’t know the cost or what it looked like). I still do not know the cost to this day, and I am very glad, since I think I would have a heart attack if I knew for sure that I was wearing a $1K piece of jewelry. So I have given him specific instructions never to tell me how much it cost. >.< I am like an ostrich with its head stuck under the sand, I know…but I honestly do NOT want to know.
We don’t live together or share finances yet, though I am starting to bug him more about saving, especially when he doesn’t have a job.
Post # 36
I do not want to know how much it will cost. I was acutally embarassed when I heard him discussing his budget with the jewler when we went ring shopping. I am a bargain shopper and can not bring myself to spend large sums of money without some prodding–he on the other hand, wants to spend a good amount. I tried to forget it and hinted to him that he did NOT have to spend very much on my ring to make me happy. So we’ll see!
Post # 37
I have no idea about the proposal, or the ring. So we couldn’t budget.
I have no clue how he ended up ‘budgeting’ for the ering, cause it was more than I would have imagined he would have spent!
we did budget the wedding bands together though!
Post # 38
Since I picked out the band and the diamond myself, I couldn’t help but see the prices. He had half the amount he wanted to spend saved up when he said I could start shopping for it. I know I went over the $10k plan a little, but lord-love-him, he didn’t bat an eyelash- just went into the store and signed on the dotted line!!!
Post # 39
We DO budget all our expenses together. What I didn’t realize is that he had a second seperate account (for this reason) and had I been paying close attention to his budget I would have noticed some things not quite adding up. Of course I didn’t pay that close attention, haha. Very sneaky sir 🙂
Post # 40
I told him what style i wanted but he went and chose it all by himself.. What a sweetheart!
Post # 41
It’s interesting that everyone seems to do this slightly differently! I have been wondering about this process lately as SO has asked me to start looking at rings. I went shopping with a girlfriend in a similar situation, which was great as we tried on loads of different rings. Now SO wants to come with me and see what styles I like. I’m not sure what the next step should be as we’ve been living together for years and our finances are combined – both our salaries are paid into our joint bank account. I’m not sure whether we should budget and pay for the ring together or not. I’d feel guilty using a chunk of our savings to pay for my ring. On the other hand, I don’t think it’s even possible for him to save money separately and hide the cost of the ring for me.