The rise of the proposal planner?

posted 9 months ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
5917 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

Is their anything special about having a stranger plan your proposal?  To me this is the equivalent of a guy having his secretary pop out at lunch to pick an anniversary gift for his wife. 

      So, have any of them ever seen a “no”? “The day someone says no is the day I quit,” Lund laughs.

She makes it sound like the method of proposing itself should be linked to someone saying yes or not. 

Post # 4
246 posts
Helper bee

“Her company’s most expensive proposal cost £800,000”


I’m in the wrong job…

Post # 5
2334 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

This is too much! This isn’t what a proposal is about.

Do something that means something to the both of you, get down on one knee and tell the girl how much she means to you & that’s it.

All this staged stuff.  They’re not celebrities.  I bet if it wasn’t for social media,  it wouldn’t exist. 

Post # 6
155 posts
Blushing bee

“Some people are crazy – but each to their own.”


They got that right 😄

Post # 7
3720 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

Well that’s gross. I miss the days when people would just do a thing without trying to figure out how to maximize likes on social media for it. 

Post # 8
246 posts
Helper bee

View original reply
MiniMeow :  Everything is about Instagram likes these days.

Post # 9
783 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2005

Im not a fan of someone else planning a proposal. I have to agree with 

View original reply
zzar45 :  and the equivalency. How is it special if someone else came up with the idea?

My proposal had no fan fare. My husband knew I loved to read books, and he wrote me the sweetest note, with a nice proposal in it and placed it in my book. I was reading when I came across the note. When I looked up he was down on one knee with a ring in his hand.

It was just us. No one around, no photos. It was amazing. 

I suppose if you like that sort of thing, then go for it, but it just seems like if someone else is doing the planning it becomes the planners vision and not the persons who are getting engaged. 

Post # 10
8985 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper


View original reply
chiara :  my husband planned the perfect proposal. Absolutely dreamy. He got adorably nervous, dropped to one knee, and asked me to marry him on the front porch of our house. Earlier in the day I was so excited about something else that I told him “man – if there is any more excitement today I’m going to throw up!” He still risked it and dropped to one knee in front of me and asked “you aren’t going to puke on me right?”  We laughed and kissed and hugged and then I realized he was holding a ring I hadn’t even bothered to look at yet, but when I did it was one he picked out himself and it was way better than anything I probably would have picked. I was crying and laughing so much we’re still not sure I ever actually said “yes” but it’s moot now!

so yea… there are no photos and it didn’t cost $800k, but we still have a good story for the grandkids 😉 

Post # 11
356 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I’m not one to determine what should be or should not be with regard to a proposal. What I will say is what we have or what we do does not equate to happiness. What we are being does. 

Post # 12
7679 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I hate social media. Proposals and weddings used to be about sharing your life together. Now it’s just a one upping of everyone you know. 

eta – This is also why I believe some of the guys who’s spouses come on here lol. “but I dont want an elaborate proposal! Just hire a carnival, get the ferris wheel to stop at the top and have fireworks go off with “will you marry me” written in the sky! ” (someone would still say, “ew he didnt even get down on one knee? Did you hire a photographer?!”) lolol. Even if thats mildly exagurated, I think guys are under a lot of pressure now a days with this kind of shit. Not just from their spouses, but also their friends/family and the friends/fam of the spouse. 

Post # 13
601 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

Next, the rise of prom-posal planners.


Post # 14
299 posts
Helper bee

View original reply
jellybellynelly :  Lol I know someone who was hurting for weeks that her fiancé proposed without going down on one knee and she was complaining to friends. 

Leave a comment

Find Amazing Vendors