(Closed) The RSVP dilemma……….LETS HELP EACH OTHER….

posted 7 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Which one would you use??
    Please send RSVP card back at a decent time. : (0 votes)
    Please dont be late sending in the RSVP card. : (0 votes)
    Would be grateful if I got the RSVP cards back. : (0 votes)
    Please be kind, return RSVP card on time. : (14 votes)
    25 %
    Need a head count, please send back. : (2 votes)
    4 %
    The sooner you send it back, the more it helps us. Thank you. : (8 votes)
    14 %
    Or use a couple of them together. Please post below which ones u would use together. : (0 votes)
    None of the above, please post what you would say. : (11 votes)
    19 %
    None of the above.Am sticking with the old phrase, respond by this date and cross my fingers. : (15 votes)
    26 %
  • Post # 3
    6512 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I like “The sooner…” option – it gives a pretty solid reason goading people into action. 

    Post # 4
    1269 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I think I would leave anything extra out.  If they can’t respond to “Please respond by x date” then I don’t think an extra sentence will help either.  It really is inevitable that you will have to followup.  Just assign someone to help you.  A lot of those sentences seem to be a little negative to me and I would read it as a bit rude. 

    Post # 5
    7173 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I had a lot of people (my mother included) think it was polite to wait until the reply by date.

    What about something like:  “(With baited breath), We look forward to your reply!  The sooner the better, but, please, no later than X”

    ETA:  I don’t think this will solve the issue of people not responding, though!  

    Post # 6
    120 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Are you going to also put an RSVP date?  I would do a combination of both, but I still don’t think it will help 🙂  People just don’t respond!  Maybe something like “RSVP by September 1st, 2012. You know the date, don’t hesitate!”  If you like the rhyming thing 🙂

    Post # 9
    16195 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    I agree that unfortunately I’d just leave it at, “The favor of a reply is requested by [DATE].” You can always build in extra time, i.e. set your RSVP date two weeks before you actually need it. I am not sure any kind of extra wording will truly make people send their cards back more quickly. I wish it would!

    Post # 10
    4582 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    There will always be people who won’t send their cards back on time (or at all, like most of my family) no matter what you print on it. No offense, because I know you’re trying to be as nice as possible, but most of your options come off as a bit snarky to me. I went with “Kindly respond by X” and hoped for the best.

    Post # 12
    7173 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    @Earlybride: I padded my RSVP date by 3 1/2 weeks – it was enough time to not stress out with the stragglers and not feel completely overwhelemed.  Hopefully you don’t have to turn in catering numbers too early… we only needed to turn ours in 3 days prior.

    Post # 14
    7689 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I think the “Please be kind . . . is kinda cute

    Post # 15
    375 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I am 2 days away from my RSVP deadline, and am still waiting on 97 (!!!!!) people. I honestly think they are deliberately waiting, because they have told Future Mother-In-Law they are coming, or said “See you in October!” on Facebook, or reserved their FLIGHTS, and haven’t actually, officially told me they are coming yet.

    I wish I could have put something to the effect of “the sooner, the better” on my response cards, and if I was having a more casual wedding, I would have. Unfortunately, that wouldn’t have really matched to formality of the rest of the invite.

    I also would have done the “______ spots have been reserved in your honor” thing, but I had heard too much about how that was the T-word. Screw tacky, it would have saved me a lot of awkward phone calls!

    …ok, back on topic. I selected the “Be kind, RSVP on time” response because I thought it was clever. Although, depending on some of your guests’ age, they may not get the reference :).

    Post # 16
    2053 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    How about, “Kindly respond by ____ date. If you don’t, we will be forced to send the RSVP zombies after you…and you don’t want the RSVP zombies to come to your house, do you?”

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