The rudest thing anyone is said to me (Vent)

posted 3 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper

Oh  man….what a cow! But your response to her inviting herself to your wedding was ON POINT. Well done! 

Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper

Also your ring sounds awesome – I would love to see a photo!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

It sounds like she was trying to be funny with “You need to make sure you are getting the real thing because men will get old and crabby but your ring will sparkle forever,” and it wasn’t funny. Try to let go of the outrage and hurt feelings – in the grand scheme of things, this woman’s rudeness has little to no impact on your life. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

All you need to tell people is that you think it’s perfect. These comments only reflect on her.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club

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MrsTCC :  wow, that’s awful!! I’m glad you stood up for yourself. She sounds materialtistic and miserable.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

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MrsTCC :  Love your response to her! Don’t feel humiliated, SHE should feel humiliated for acting like that. An heirloom is extra beautiful to me.

Post # 9
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Busy bee

umm wow! Amazing response though, good for you!

 

You should get the ring appraised though.. For insurance purposes. My engagement ring was made from the gold/diamonds of my FI’s grandmother’s wedding rings. We had no idea the qorth/quality of the diamonds and it is important to have that information should anything happen to the ring.

 

I had one guy come up to me after I was engaged say “Round 2 eh, you must be good at planning these. What are you? Knocked up??” I wanted to punch him in the nose. I was married before to an abusive man, eventually divorced him. Found my now Fiance who is a spectacular person. Needless to say he is NOT invited to the wedding

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

Wowww, so rude!!!! I love your response, though!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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MrsTCC :  BITCH!!!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Girl, your response!!! Seriously. Good for you for having the balls to say it! Lord knows it needed to be said!

The only thing wrong with your post is that I don’t see a ring picture! You can’t go telling a bunch of women on the bee that you have a 100 year old family heirloom ring, and not show us a photo so we can all gawk at it. 🙂

Post # 13
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Blushing bee

I think you’re doing pretty well if that’s the rudest thing anyone has ever said to you. And, not only did you think quickly and give her a good response, you also had a room full of women, including your future mother in law, that heard her comments and were appalled. I’m sure it was shocking in the moment, but you definitely came out on top.

Post # 14
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Helper bee

I love your response to her. And I also would love to see a picture.

 

Several months after I got engaged, I was in my office with a college-aged student who works for me part time. She mentioned that she and several of her coworkers had been trying to figure out how my fiance managed to afford such a giant ring. She said that if he could afford that, he’s obviously overpaid for what he does. I gave her an education in the sorts of comments that we don’t make about people’s finances and then gave her an education in moissanite.

I thought she would be chastened by the conversation, but she came back the next day saying that she talked it over with her boyfriend and he told her he would never expect her to settle for a fake diamond because she deserves the real thing. Gaah! Kids these days.

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper

You SHOULD get it appraised, but more for insurance purposes not to make sure its not cz lol! 

And yes, she sounds crazy, but this line is hilarious “men will get old and crabby but your ring will sparkle forever”

I LOVE heirloom diamonds, I think the notion is so romantic! Congrats on your engagement! 

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