(Closed) The rudest thing I've every seen printed on a wedding invitation

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 137
5107 posts
Bee Keeper

@PinkMermaid:  LMAO! 😉 But that’s hardly a meal for both of their poor asses! hehehehe

Post # 138
16 posts
  • Wedding: August 2007 - church ceremony and private club reception

That’s just awful

Post # 142
435 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@babecake:  I think that was pretty non-traditional and maybe a little rude (rude because it goes against etiquette and the “norm”) but I don’t see why people are so quick to get so offended. It’s not they’re name calling, they’re being honest. Why does “being honest” have to be so taboo? If they said, “If you don’t bring me a gift, don’t come to my wedding” then I might be offended but this is a small thing in the grand scheme of life. I definitely don’t agree with you decreasing their present because of this. That, to me, is much tackier than the invite but to each his or her own. 

Post # 143
858 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I find it rude that she expects gifts (even if it’s just money) yet she never gives them.  I however see nothing wrong with asking just for money.  I don’t plan on asking for it though.

Post # 144
276 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@babecake:  It seems like you dont even like them that much, why are you even going to their wedding?  


@greymonkey42:  This… I think they are just being honest.  

Post # 145
642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I do think we all need to take a step back here and remember that etiquette is not a big deal (I know, I know *le gasp*). It’s a social construct, one that could easily be different than it is (and, in fact, is different in many cultures). We’re not talking about people being murdered here, we’re talking about the way a wedding invitation was phrased. That’s not to say that there’s anything wrong with following the standard etiquette, but there’s also nothing inherently or morally wrong with not following it either. (ETA: this isn’t a question of what’s objectively right and wrong here)

Unconventional? Yes. Rude? I suppose, given a strict interpretation of our social norms. Worth all the pearl-clutching going on? No way. 

Post # 146
11165 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@babecake:  why don’t they just write the check for us too? Honestly people these days just baffle me.

i just got a reminder card in the between already got a std and invite. Its sole purpose was to tell us no kids (not in a nice way) and again sent their registry information for the third time. It did not come off well to most, including me. 

Post # 147
858 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

@eclipse:  I agree at least they are being honest.  I don’t think it’s right to ask for any type of gift it you don’t ever give gifts.    It sounds like she’s very full of herself.

Post # 148
259 posts
Helper bee

I cannot believe that she did that! I cant believe that no one tried to talk her out of it! That would make me not want to give her anything at all!!! 

Post # 149
533 posts
Busy bee

I’ve seen this before. Was invited to a 30th with this. Not many people went. Felt bad but it was ridiculous! 

Post # 150
157 posts
Blushing bee

Well, I’ll give her points for being honest.

Post # 151
1341 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Whoa, SUPER rude. I always, always give cash, it’s just what we do by me… and I think I would actually go buy that couple a toaster. Or a blender. 🙂

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