(Closed) The rudest thing I've every seen printed on a wedding invitation

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
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7 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2014

So beeping rude. Have been subject to a five verse poem from one couple, basically asking for cash, and another saying pay cash in to this account so we can buy a piece of antique furniture, yes really… ffs

Post # 18
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6290 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

Also, because of the way they have worded it, it sounds like they want money FOR their wedding, ie, to pay for their wedding. Really hoping that isn’t the case, because if so, that just takes it to a whole other level of bad etiquette…

Post # 19
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9033 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Whilst I think it is rude, in my opinion at least they are being brutally honest and not trying to hide the fact behind a cutsey poem or cash registry disguised as an excursion for the honeymoon registry.

Rudest thing I saw was a bride on another forum wanting to ask her guests to send a cheque if they were RSVPing yes to cover their meals.

Post # 20
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1848 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Wow.

Post # 21
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3625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@JoolyBee:  I don’t think it’s just about being on the Bee (or other similar sites) to know that it’s frowned upon. They’re literally asking for money from people. That’s like if it was your birthday and you told people, “Hey, you’re invited to my birthday party; get your checkbook ready!” I’m assuming no mature adult says that so it shouldn’t be any different with regards to a wedding.

@barbie86:  +1!!!

Post # 23
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553 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@lilbluebird:  I mean, yea, there are etiquitte books out there. I agreed completely that it’s not appropriate at all, in any place, at any time, period. I just don’t think it’s very nice to make gifts conditional, you know? She intended to give them a very very generous gift, she should give it to them, they’ll certainly (better) thank her for it. 

Post # 24
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327 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I simply have no words. 

Post # 25
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1954 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@peachacid:  you can’t access someone’s bank account with just their account number. I’ve worked in the financial industry for over ten years, it’s not that easy. 

Post # 26
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701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Wow. That is insane! What has gotten into people for them to think this is acceptable?!

 

Post # 27
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553 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@babecake:  Yea, now that right there…that change my attitude a little bit. Home girl needs to learn some manners! hahaha 

Post # 28
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3139 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

The way it is written is awful and seen as rude however lots of couples these days are saying they prefer cash. I don’t see a problem with being honest about it just be a little more tactful in your requests 

Post # 29
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553 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@j_jaye:  whhhhhaaaaaa?! “pay for your own meal” ?!?! 

Post # 30
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11744 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

holy shit! how rude! I’m sorry but I wouldn’t give anything after that to be quite honest – or I’d probably give them a mixing bowl or something! 😉 Actually, I’d probably give her an etiquette manual since she’s clearly lacking manners and class.
 

@JoolyBee:  sorry but you don’t need Emily Post or anyone on the wedding bee to tell you how rude that is.  It wasn’t even tactfully worded. 

Post # 31
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3120 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

They basically can’t even be bothered to cash checks into their account.  They are expecting you to do it for them.  I guess I don’t know anyone who would ever do this, but I don’t think I’d go to that wedding.

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