Am I the only one that feels this is the natural extension of our society’s insanity regarding wedding presents? Sure, they are taking it to the extreme, but it’s a logical step to take.
1)people are expected to give a gift when they come to a wedding
2)it is a good assumption, then, that people are going to be wanting to give me gifts for my wedding
3)since I am getting these gifts I may as well get ones I am going to use, so I will register for gifts and give the guests this information
4)I don’t need any household items, so since everyone will be giving me gifts anyways, they may as well give us cash to use
5) since they’re giving us cash, it makes more sense for them to just deposit it into our accounts rather than going through cheques, which just adds an unnecessary middle-man
If you buy into the whole social norm regarding wedding gifts, I see how this works. I hate the whole kit and kaboodle, so we’re just avoiding it entirely, but I really have a hard time faulting them for it. It goes against some arbitrary social rules, but it really is a reasonable conclusion, given the premise.
I just feel like the whole wedding gift idea is a strange enigma. Sure, we’re forced to say out loud that “of course we don’t expect any gifts. Our guests’ presence is their gift to us” but then we all go and register for these gifts we “aren’t expecting” and then get kind of offended when people don’t give us them. Does no one else think this is bat-shit insane? Why do we think it’s necessary for people to beat around the bush and say it in a sly way? If we’re going to expect gifts, then dammit be clear about it. If we’re not going to expect gifts then what on earth are all these registries for?
I, for one, kind of admire their balls-to-the-wall bluntness. If you’re going to expect gifts (which most of us, deep down, do) then at least freaking say it.
But I say this as a person that’s having a Destination Wedding with an explicit expectation of no gifts (monetary or otherwise).