(Closed) The rudest thing I've every seen printed on a wedding invitation

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 62
3420 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

@babecake:  They woudld get two pennies, my RSVP card checked NO, with my Two Cents written on the back.

Post # 63
1193 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@barbie86:  +1 I don’t get the she didn’t know better argument. It’s never polite to demand what you want as a gift. Not For a birthday, graduation or any other occasion) so a wedding is no different. Your guests do not HAVE to bring a gift. You supposedly invited then to share in your special day not to milk them for cash. 

Post # 64
1830 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@babecake:  This bride just completely embarrassed her and her fiance to all her family and freinds! Who does shit like this? I would still give her what you planned too, just because she made a fool of herself doesn’t mean your gift to her should change since she is your friend.

Post # 65
472 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@babecake:  Is there any polite way to ask for money as a gift do you think? My fiance and I live 2hrs by plane from where we are getting married, as were getting married in our home state because all our friends and family are there. We therefore cannot take gifts back on the plane or post them back as it will just cost far too much. We were thinking of having a wishing well poem suggesting that if our guests did want to provide a gift, that we would really appreciate money. Is this okay? or is it never okay to ask for money?

Post # 67
1508 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Since this is frowned upon… how would someone go about asking for money and not gifts without sounding rude? I definitely agree that the way this couple asked for money was very blunt and uncalled for, and having people deposit the money directly to their account is very distasteful.

My SO and I live together and have everything our house needs. We have everything for the kitchen, the living room, the dining room, the family room… we don’t need any objects. It would just be nice to have extra money for  the honeymoon or bills. Sorry if I sound trashy. I’m not trying to. We just seriously don’t need anything for the house. Is there any nice way to not end up with 3 toasters and 2 crockpots?

Post # 69
4305 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999


And I would not be putting my account number on that many invites.  She does realize it has her address on it and finding a routing number online for a bank is easy.

What she did was not only rude, but incredibly stupid.

Post # 70
642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@babecake:  I completely agree with you that our society is heading the wrong way, and that we’re all getting self-absorbed and what-not. What I just can’t stand is the hypocrisy surrounding wedding invitations. The crossover between the people saying “Oh we don’t expect any gifts at all because that’s rude” and the people saying “oh my goodness! that person didn’t give me a wedding gift. how rude!” is pretty large.

It just seems like we’re all sitting up here on our high horses saying one thing and wanting another, and looking down on the people who state clearly what they want. It’s just a strange social charade we’re expected to go along with. And hiding what we expect behind the veil of “tact” is really just kind of silly. If everyone knows what’s going on, why is it rude to say it?

It’s a broken system becaue the people claiming they don’t need gifts are the same people getting up in arms when they don’t get them. We need to pick one or the other.

Do I think this couple doesn’t have their heads screwed on right? Absolutely. But I think the part of it they’re getting wrong is the same part of it that most of our society has wrong, but we just don’t admit it, instead we just hide it behind “tact”. So, then, I think it’s hypoctitical of us to sit here and say how much they have it all wrong, when most of us have the same part wrong too, we’re just not willing to admit it so honestly.

Post # 71
3586 posts
Sugar bee

Regardless of what anyone learns on the bee, it’s common knowledge NOT to ask people for money. It’s just plain rude.

Post # 72
1311 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Oh wow, the nerve

Post # 73
1562 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Um, I’ve actually seen worse.  A exbf’s step mother printed her invites at home, on folded computer paper, and actually told people to show up with a plant for her yard, or they wouldn’t get fed.  And she was such a nut job that I believe she would have followed up on that!

Post # 74
384 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

oh my…i would of died!!!

Post # 75
8470 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Wow.. I’ve never seen anything like that before.. (And I thought I was an outspoken kind of person.)

And what’s funny is that they are too darn lazy to go and cash a darn check!


Post # 76
553 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@AdriannaJean:  Hey, you just stated the definition of Etiquitte: “strange social charade” lol well done

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