(Closed) The rudest thing I've every seen printed on a wedding invitation

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 92
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433 posts
Helper bee

@babecake:  

Wow.  lol I wouldn’t get them anything after that.  Just a card.

Post # 94
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I guess I’m in the minority here…. Yes. I think the wording was very rude. But I’m absolutly shocked that OP would change the amount gifted simply based on bad ediquette. To me, it doesn’t sound like they’re ‘demanding’ money, but saying that they would rather money than any other gift. Obviously, still pretty rude. But to change your gift amount based on it? I seriously could never imagine…. 

Post # 95
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Oh Lawd.  I just read this to DH and he said “I wouldn’t do it, but I kind of like it.”  Thank goodness I planned our wedding…..

Post # 96
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I would have to give her something like a set of glasses for the kitchen, just for the rudness factor.

 

Post # 99
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Call me old-fashioned but indicating anything about what kind of gift you want in an invitation is tacky. It’s not until I get on the boards that I even remember that I might get some nice gifts out of what is already going to be an absolutely wonderful day. 

Don’t even get me started on dollar dances or honeymoon jars at the bar…

Post # 100
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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@babecake:  Yeah I’ve read through the whole thread…. If someone is close enough to me that I am going to their wedding and was originally planning on giving them $200, rude wording on an invitation [edit: or the amount that they have gifted others in the past] (while it would rub me the wrong way) would not be enough to change that. Just me I guess. *shrug*

Post # 101
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Wow… and you don’t have to come on the Bee to learn that THAT invitation is rude. 

Post # 103
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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@babecake:  Honestly, what I give everyone else at a wedding. $100-200 total for both me and my SO. If they are close enough to me that I am going to their wedding, I would give them what I give everyone else/what I can afford. To me, a gift isn’t a based on what someone previously gave me. I wouldn’t give a cheaper gift out of spite. 

Post # 105
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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@babecake:  If she’s not a close friend and I felt that negatively about her then I wouldn’t be attending. So yeah, I guess that’s where we differ. 

Post # 106
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

WOW…how freaking entitled. And I’m sorry but as others have said, if you wouldn’t have known this was rude if it wasn’t for the bee, you should probably get a clue. Start reading Miss Manners or pickup an etiquette book or something, because you’re clearly lacking some common sense about not coming across as completely rude to others.

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