Post # 107
Honestly, I wish we could just do away with giving gifts for weddings. Things have changed and the gifts are rarely used to help a stuggling young couple get the neccessities they need to start their lives. I think couples should not even mention gifts at all. I don’t think gifts should be obligatory either. It all seems so greedy to me.
I have no desire to have people give me gifts at my wedding.
Post # 108
In our area of AUS, most people have ‘wishing wells’, and write a cute poem on the invite pretty much saying ‘MONEY!’ it’s accepted. I didn’t and won’t do that, i’m just not registering, but after our e-party I did get a few comments of ‘i didn’t know what to get you because it wasn’t on the invite’. Yeah, coz I don’t want to be rude..
Post # 109
I am speechless. I can’t believe someone would put that on their wedding invitation. I don’t blame you for not wanting to give them as much.
Post # 110
we didn’t give them a gift…well, not really. they couldn’t afford their wedding (like, at all. this girl is ridiculous. don’t even get me started, lol), so they asked my husband (and other family members) to come to their rescue. plus, we were in the wedding party so i had to spend $250 on the dress and he had to rent a tux, AND we had just set our wedding date and were trying to save our pennnies, so their wedding gift from us was
their wedding (and getting to see us dressed up, haha).
Post # 111
How could someone not know that’s rude. I’m with you OP, she sounds like a money grabber, so I’d give her significantly less.
Post # 112
she reminds me of someone i know!!! might just be the same person hehe
Post # 113
i am sorry, i feel you are jealous of this girl, yes maybe she does not care about money but it does not mean that her wedding is free !
anyway, gives 50usd if you want but i think the most impolite there is actually you.
Post # 115
I don’t find the request for monetary gifts particularily offensive… and maybe they thought the wording would be quirky and funny on an honest way.. but errr .. that has not come off well to say the least.
Post # 116
I have no problem w/ bluntly asking for money, imo it’s archaic not to, if that’s what you want. But I just think giving out your bank account number is stupid and unsafe, especially on a piece of paper that could end up anywhere.
Post # 117
This is laughable and in such poor taste! I don’t know how anybody could defend this!!!!
1. ASKING for money in the invitation (that is never appropriate to list registry or your desire for cash on the wedding invitation.)
2. Supplying account number and routing number. How lazy could you get? Basically, this B & G don’t want to spend any time or effort depositing money. Why not make the guests pay the $25 wire transfer fee themselves (tx fees vary by bank, but at my bank, I would be charged a $25 fee to give this sweet couple their gift.)
Post # 118
Can I ask for a picture of this? I want to see how obvious it is on the invite
Post # 119
We have done away with gifts for our wedding. We are requesting NO GIFTS at all!
Post # 120
Wow!! Thats rude! I had a friend that had a corny poem about wanting money and I thought that was bad but this is worse!!
Post # 121
Even if they weren’t members on this site or a site like it, it takes 30 seconds to “Google that shit.” But, like other PPs have mentioned, how could you not know that’s rude? (And an easy way for someone to drain your bank account!)