Post # 1
My fiance and I are the youngest in the family and although being engaged longer than any other members, we have watched 2 other family members get hitched bfore us. Soon the third couple will get married and its around the same time that I will have to send my save the date cards.
So Im wondering, since her wedding is mid month, is it in bad taste to send the save the date a week after her wedding? Should I wait until I have received her thank you note?
– Clueless and confused –
Post # 2
ljmarschall: Are you having a destination wedding, a wedding on a holiday weekend, or expecting a lot of people to have to travel?
Post # 3
julies1949: My entire family is foreign and quite a few of his are too. We have already sent the invites to those people who will need to travel far. Our wedding is in May next year and its on a long weekend so we don’t want the guests we’re inviting to make other arrangements for the holliday. That’s the main reason why I would like to send them earlier rather than later.
Post # 4
If you’re taking about Memorial Day weekend, then I would say that’s it’s more than fair and sufficient notice to send your Save-The-Date Cards by Thanksgiving regardless of when your relative’s wedding is taking place. In my opinion, your STD doesn’t steal her thunder. Now, if you’re envisioning sending your Save-The-Date Cards much earlier than 6 months in advance, then, yes, perhaps you could wait until after your relatives wedding. That could be seen by some as you trying to steal attention.
Personally, I will be sending my STD right around the time of a good friend’s wedding and 3 weeks before a family wedding, but as it will be 6 months before my wedding, I think that’s perfectly fine.
Post # 5
ljmarschall: Unless your invite hinges upon getting a thank you from this person, send the Save-The-Date Cards whenever it’s right. You don’t need to wait for anything to send them off! She had her one day and then life moved on. Send them!
Post # 6
ljmarschall: If you’ve been engaged forever, they will have been expecting your save the dates for a while. No worries.
Post # 7
I would say send them whenever works for you. We sent ours out about 8 months in advance because we (well I) have family travelling from all over the country/world. We actually did hold off sending them by 2 weeks because my grandmother died and it felt kind of tacky to send them so close to the funeral. BUT since you’re contending with a wedding, and not a funeral, I would say send them whenever you’re comfortable with it. Everyone loves having TWO happy occasions to celebrate! 🙂