Post # 1
Here is the link my old post: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/more-dating-advice-needed-from-the-bees
Well, J got back from overseas the day before last and yesterday asked me out for a second date (YAY!). We are going out tomorrow night for sushi. The sushi place is in our local area, and it is one of the places where the sushi goes around on a conveyor belt and you sit on stools.
When J was overseas he was snowboarding and has broken his ankle, so he is on crutches and has lots of difficulty getting around. The sushi place is near his place, but its still a bit of a walk (he cant really drive atm)
The sushi place itself isn’t very romantic, and you are there for a max of 30 minutes and then i’m not sure where we would move on to because he can’t really get around. If he wasn’t injured it would be no issue, as we could easily walk to one of the bars around, but I don’t know if he will be able to manage, and I dont want him to be in pain.
I’m not sure whether to ask him if he will be right at the sushi place with the seating, or if I should offer to pick him up/drive somewhere? There are a few other places around the local area we could go, but I don’t want to seem bossy? If I do say something, what do I say?
Post # 3
@ladyluckystars: Just ask him how his injury is holding up. Tell him that maybe you could come up with a “plan B” just in case it starts to bother him.
Post # 4
I agree with the previous post.
He might be too embarassed to ask you to drive but still wants to take you out. Sometimes guys are really weird about the girl driving on dates.
Post # 5
Aww this is so cute! Lady, keep posting as I love helping you out with this exciting time in your life!
As for your question: It is absolutely ok for you to suggest driving him somewhere else. Say exactly what you posted “I don’t want you to be in pain, do you want me to drive?”
That shows you’re NOT being bossy but being sympathetic to his plight and also not some sort of princess that dosen’t care about someone else’s pain or situation.
If, for whatever reason, he REALLY wanted to go to the sushi place, and says “no, no, let’s go there”, don’t push the issue. Just walk beside him, very slowly and be attentive to when he needs a chair pulled out, etc.
I remember the first time a man let me into his car by opening my door first. I reached over and unlocked his side (the days before power locks). He later told me that I was the first girl to ever do that for him and it made him start to fall for me.
J will appreciate your concern, but let him be a man too if he insists on going for sushi. Men like to feel like men for some reason.
Post # 6
Thanks @ Just_Squeeze!
I offered to drive and he happily accepted, but he seems really keen on the sushi place! Will wait til I see how he hobbles around to see if I suggest something else..
I have my outfit all planned.. Got up early before work and did my hair.. Just hoping that he kisses me tonight! 🙂 *fingers crossed*
Post # 7
@ladyluckystars: oh my gosh that is so sweet! I hope he kisses you tonight too 😉
Post # 8
@ladyluckystars: Awwww! I remember our first kiss 🙂 This is so exciting! 🙂 Be sure to let us know how it goes!