Post # 1
So, I’ve been mulling over this guest list fiascoe thing all day. I ended up having the idea that we should have a really, really cheap reception here at home after our real wedding. I know a lot of people do that, but I didn’t want to look like a diva or something by having two wedding receptions.
However, this seems like the only plausible option. I’ve got people all over the place expecting to be invited to our wedding. We simply can’t afford to invite them. But, if we were to rent a cheap hall and do a potluck style reception we could afford to host all of these people.
I talked to Fiance about it and he said he’d think about it. But, he really seemed to like the idea because there are a lot of people he’d like to be there to celebrate with us. So, I am thinking he is going to end up agreeing.
What do you guys think? Are two receptions just totally absurd, or do you think our situation warrants it?
I guess I should get some of you up to speed: We’re having a Destination Wedding in July. We can’t afford to host everyone there that we would have liked to have celebrated with. Some of these people are going to be super upset to not be invited. Also, some important guests can’t afford/aren’t in good health to come to our Destination Wedding.
Post # 3
i personally like the idea, but… looking at the other side, if someone is going to be offended because they wern’t invited to you wedding are they really going to be less offended becuase they were invited to a cheaper after party?
is there some guest list weeding that needs to occure? just a thought
Post # 4
I remember your post the other day about being over on your guest list, and I guess I didn’t realise you were having a Destination Wedding. A lot of people that have destination weddings have an at home reception.
Post # 5
I hope it’s ok, because that’s what I’m doing. We’re getting married at a semi-destination location, having a reception, and then having a big reception a week after. When talking to people I use the words “small” and “family” a lot to describe the ceremony, and 90% of the people I talk to don’t seem offended at all.
Post # 6
when you say pot luck reception does that mean people bring food or do you mean its a more casual style (bbq??) dinner? we dont use the term down here
Post # 7
@globalmargaret: I am hoping that if I refer to our wedding as being, “Intimate” or “immediate family only”, that these people won’t be offended to not be invited. I don’t think they will be offended, at least not most of them. I think most of them are just wanting to celebrate with us. At the very least, it’s a free party, right? We have weeded our guest list down dramatically. But, I’ve got a lot of people who I never intended to even invite, who are seriously expecting an invitation.
@eloping: It means that all of our relatives (and ourselves) would make food and bring it to the party. That way, we are not really spending a ton of money on this second reception. All we’d really have to pay would be the rental fee for the hall.