(Closed) the secret to staying married is … separate rooms?! Agree or disagree?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: what do you think about separate bedrooms for you and your partner?
    no way - that's so unromantic! : (61 votes)
    68 %
    definitely, a life saver! : (7 votes)
    8 %
    we have a spare room with a bed/couch for occasional use : (22 votes)
    24 %
    undecided! : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    493 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    Same bedroom. King sized bed. Separate BATHROOMS.  Now that’s the recipe for wedded bliss.

    Post # 4
    18643 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    We sleep in the same bed but don’t feel the need to cuddle all night because it makes it hard to sleep that way.

    Post # 5
    5263 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    What MissACS said. x1000.

    We actually don’t mind our queen bed, although it gets crowded with the kitties. 

    Post # 6
    2280 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    “Sleeping in separate rooms saved my marriage.

    My husband snores so loud that it was making me lose sleep nightly, and causing my work to falter. i was consistently losing 2-4 hours per night of sleep. He was gettign upset because I was constantly kicking him, screaming, threatening him etc.”


    I’m going to go out on a limb and say that separate rooms really isn’t the secret, just a remedy to symptoms.

    I think I’d rather have him next to me, even if he does snore and spoon in his sleep. 

    Post # 7
    3709 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Definitely the same KING SIZED bed. I don’t mind sharing a bathroom either. But his and her closets would be HEAVENLY!! Plus…I am actually a fan of having my own personal space in the house where I can veg out when I am awake. He has his office…and I am taking over the sunroom for my books, some nice comfy, GIRLY furniture, and some plants. I love my Fiance…but sometimes I need to be alone in my own space.

    Post # 8
    493 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    Yeah we usually have a 20 pound dog (who has no qualms about kicking you in his sleep and has feet that smell of Fritos) and one of the 2 cats on the bed.  We’re also different temperature kind of sleepers. I need no less than 391 blankets atop of me to ensure proper warmth and comfort so I layer them on top of the regular sheet and comforter. 

    And once you get used to a King sized bed, sleeping in anything else is like being in an MRI machine together.

    But truly, the separate bathrooms/showers/tubs has been miraculous. Because we don’t have kids, we have free reign on all the bedroom closets in the house, so we’re lucky there for now.

    Post # 9
    5993 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    King size bed, seperate bathrooms and if he breaths on me during the night i happily put a pillow on his face – i hate hot expelled icky breath breathing on me.  thankfully he doesnt snore


    Post # 10
    3162 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Not married yet but live together and all I ever talk about is how much I want a King bed! He snores sometimes and we are currently sleeping in a DOUBLE bed (yay for NYC apartment square footage) and it’s kind of terrible. Ideally it would be awesome to have a guest room that could be used in emergencies. Also, sometimes I can’t sleep so it would be nice to have that space. Basically, the more space, the better! And OMG I’d kill for separate bathrooms and closet space.

    Post # 11
    4480 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

    Mr. S and I have talked about this… he does snore (sometimes pretty loudly) but I have earplugs! We don’t plan to have separate bedrooms as a matter of course, but we do plan to have an office/”guest room” if we have a big enough place that he’ll probably use on occasion… mostly during the day, I imagine, but I’d be okay if he decided he wanted to sleep there sometimes.

    But I agree with everyone else, separate bathrooms would make our lives MUCH better, even now!

    Post # 12
    2404 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    ooo, i agree…same bedroom, separate bathrooms!! oh , and we have separate closets and that is a MUST.. i love it.

    our full size bed is a little snug, so i think i queen would be an upgrade for us!

    Post # 13
    604 posts
    Busy bee

    Bed I wouldn’t think so. I want to snuggle up to my So and he does to. Now should you two have separate hang out rooms sure!!! My So and I always talk about that. I want to watch my Spanish soaps and he can watch the game. After and hour or two, we can reconvene and have quality time. This way you’re both happy. Everyone needs their space. You don’t want your SO following you around everywhere and he wouldn’t want you there either.

    Post # 14
    4382 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

    It would make me way to sad not to share a bed with Mr. S. No way jose.

    Post # 15
    6661 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    We sleep in a Queen and def need a King. Whenever we stay in a hotel with a King we sleep so well. But I agree that same bed separate bathrooms is the key to a happy marriage.

    Post # 16
    281 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010 - The Glen Manor House

    A wise person once said that all bathrooms should be soundproof. Period. I couldn’t agree more!

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