The shettles method – gender selection

posted 9 months ago in TTC
Post # 2
244 posts
Helper bee

We’ve always BD’d day before or day of ovulation. I had a girl. 🤷🏻‍♀️ It’s the luck of the draw.. 

Post # 3
140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Hunnibee88 :  I really believe it’s the luck of the draw. But I think some of the theories on sites like Ingender and Genderdreaming are really interesting. It’s more diet based and focuses on nutrition. Women who tend to eat frequently, do not skip meals, eat lots of hearty foods = boys. Women who are dieting, doing intense cardio, drinking diet drinks/coffee, lots of sugar = girls. Many of the women on those forums have 3+ children of the same gender so they get hardcore into “eating for blue” (or pink)…but still, anyone on those sites will say there is no magic bullet to get a boy or girl. It’s not timing of intercourse, or alkaline vs. acidic PH or diet or moon phase. It’s just luck of the draw.

Post # 4
765 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

Hunnibee88 :  An ex told me his mom managed to have alternating genders among his siblings using this method. I was planning to try it too if we decide we want to have a kid. 

Post # 9
1671 posts
Bumble bee

There’s a section in the book “Expecting Better” that debunks gender selection methods. Based on peer reviewed studies and statistics, I don’t think it works. There’s no harm trying it, just try not to be too disappointed if it doesn’t work.

Post # 10
122 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

I believe the Shettles method is mostly timing? I can’t remember now, but if so, it rang true for us. I always heard that the timing was the only thing that truly could scientifically have a sway one way or another because boy sperm are faster swimmers but girls are more resilient and live longer. The boys only survive 24-48 hours and girls up to 5 days. So the idea is if you have sex when you ovulate, the boys get there first being faster. But if you have sex 4-5 days before ovulation, all the boys will die off, leaving only the girls. Obviously it’s not foolproof but the science behind boys being faster and girls living longer is true, so it makes sense. My daughter is a 5 day before ovulation “whoopsie daisy” and my son is a planned “let’s do this” on ovulation day. Obviously nothing is foolproof and we weren’t trying for one or the other but it turned out “correct” for us. I have heard diet can definitely influence the ph levels in the vagina making it more favorable for one or the other but never tried that.

Post # 12
413 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Wasn’t accurate for me. BD on CD12, then Darling Husband went out of province for two weeks. Got a positive OPK on CD16, which means O likely happened CD17 or 18 (I think 17, based on cramps). Honestly thought that we were out for that cycle, haha. Baby was a boy, which contradicts the Shettles theory. 

Post # 13
1102 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

We didn’t do this on purpose but read about it later. We BD on ovulation day and got a boy. But it could just be a fluke too!

Post # 14
9811 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Hunnibee88 :  I have an O-5 boy.  Boy sperm can definitely live 5 days!  I have one of each but wasn’t charting with my first so I can’t comment on what day it was we had sex.

Post # 15
2527 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

We had sex day before O, day of O, and are having a girl. Based on our timing, that method would say we’d be more likely to have a boy. 

I really don’t believe in any of the theories of getting one gender or another. It’s truly the luck of the draw. I would never want to reduce my chances of getting pregnant just so I can get one gender or another. I guess gender has never really mattered to me though, we would have been 100% happy with either. 

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