(Closed) The Shocked Expression in Response to Wedding Size

posted 11 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
451 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Our invite list was 250 cut off there….I would say that is an average size wedding. I consider 150 to be smaller,  but i suppose it depends on your area of where you live. But 200-250 is not a large wedding by any means! Congrats!

Post # 4
606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I agree – 200 – 250 isn’t THAT huge at all. To be quite honest, I always thought I would have a wedding about that size, but turns out it’ll only be about 125 – 150. People have asked before about how many people, and I say oh fairly small only about 125 and their eyes bug out (apparently 125 isn’t small?). People. Go Figure.


Post # 5
23 posts
  • Wedding: July 2011

Ugh I get so sick of naysayers and/or people that ask you questions and then ridicule your decisions!!  Good for you for having a wedding size that makes you happy, whatever size that may be.  I tell people we’d like ours to be around 100 and they say wow that’s so small!  But I’ve been to plenty that are larger than that; it’s all about the preference of the bride and groom.

I read somewhere that the best way to deal with a question you don’t want to answer is to smily sweetly and say “Why do you want to know?”  Maybe that will get those folks off your back :o)

Post # 6
1765 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I agree. Mine started out as a small wedding and has ended up in the medium size category (200), but that is no one else’s business! I can’t believe people judge based on wedding size!

I will say this though: even though it’s each bride’s decision on what size wedding to have, I have been to at least one where the wedding was a great number of guests but they ran out of food–because they decided to underestimate the number to save money, couldn’t think of cutting the guest list down from 425, and come to find out later, it’s all because the bride wanted more gifts! So I think some people might judge size of a wedding based on this kind of comparison.

Post # 7
81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

You are not a freak.  I can easily see how a wedding would get that big, and quick.  Our wedding isn’t going to be that big, but only because his side of the family can’t/won’t come.  (It’s a visa/don’t like to travel around the world thing.  It sucks, but I’m dealing.)  At last count, we’re inviting almost 150 of my family, our friends, and my parents friends.  If we included his family and his parent’s friends, it could easily reach the 225 range.  (He has 7 brothers and sisters and about 100 first cousins!)  I think that if that’s how many people you have in your life who you want to be there, then consider yourself lucky that that many people love and support the two of you.  Congratulations!

Post # 8
1892 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

To me that is a huge wedding lol but FH and I are planning like 50 people so that’s probably way!

In general I don’t think it is THAT huge. My brothers wedding has a guest list of about 250-300 people so it’s right in that same range as yours. I wouldn’t worry about it. Everyone has their own opinion about every little detail of your wedding. The guest list is no exception. There will always be some naysayer no matter what topic is being discussed and don’t let them think you are a freak! If that size wedding is your dream then I say go for it. It’s your wedding and your the one that gets to make those decisions not them!

Post # 9
4566 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Echoing previous sentiments, that’s totally not a huge wedding! We’ll probably send out about that many invitations but most won’t come cause they live in Atlanta and we’ll be getting married in Lexington (ky). But I don’t think it’s weird to invite that many people!

Look at it this way: you are so lucky to have so many people that love you! Most people don’t have enough people to invite to say that they have that much love!

Post # 10
2470 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Ours is teetering around 200-225, I don’t think its THAT Large but thats because everyone who knows us knows how big FI’s family is.

People have opinions about everything and anything

Post # 11
5495 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

It’s not too bad. My Future Sister-In-Law invied about 300 and we are probably inviting about 250. I agree that it’s a pretty average size.

Post # 12
10216 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

I think it is a regional thing as well.  You’re in the south baby and err we tend to do everything much larger than life down here (it’s not just in texas lol)… i think your wedding is average for the south.

Post # 13
2365 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’m used to big weddings. Actually, when talking about small weddings around the web … or on here … they say 50- 75 and under … and I just am amazed b/c that is very small to me.

200- 250 is completely normal. We have invited 200’ish … and to fiances family that is a small wedding … to my family it’s normal.

These days, anything goes! It’s just kind of strange that even though its almost 2010 people still are making super harsh judgements … get over it and let people live life how they want!

Post # 14
11324 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Not that my opinion means anything, but I think 100 or less is a small wedding, 100-200 is a medium wedding, 200-350 is a big wedding, and 350+ is a REALLY big wedding. 🙂

But whatevs. The only time I’ve ever done a double-take is when a girl on say yes to the dress said her wedding had like, 650 people. How do you even say hi to everyone??

Post # 15
273 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I agree  – everyone has their own perception about what’s a big or a small wedding – we had a small wedding, (destination,) of 60 people.. and when I would tell people, (in response to their question,) that it was going to be a small wedding, they would reply with, “Oh, like 100-150 guests then?”   What??? That to me is a large wedding.. but then again, my hubby and I have very small families, so our friends were the absolute majority of the guest list…

Post # 16
7052 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Everybody I know thinks it’s nuts that I’m having a small wedding.  Like 50 or less.  That’s what we want.  Everybody seems to expect the whole countryclub/ ballroom thing again from me and that’s 100 percent not what we want!~

Although one venue very very very close to home (like in the same subdivision) is the clubhouse for the golf club and it’s gorgeous.  Overlooks the fairways and gardens are elegant!  But it’s still going to be smaller even if it’s held there (outdoors) and the cocktail hour the only thing indoors and the reception in a tent.

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