I just saw this. I’m sorry your special ring wasn’t an ering and I’m also sorry that your SO took the time to make this huge presentation about a not ering gift. UGH. I hope you had a Merry Xmas anyway!
That’s a pretty necklace!! Bling bling!
I’m sorry to hear that you didn’t get your Xmas proposal. Since you broke the pact and talked about it, was there a reason for the delay? As in the ring is being made and isn’t done, or plans fell through? Hang in there.
Oh wow sounds like you are both close to a proposal! Woohoo and congrats!
Yuck to feeling like you are the only person in your group of friends who isn’t married or engaged. Do either of you have siblings? Are they are engaged/married? When I feel ‘last’ sometimes it’s helpful to remind myself that it just feels that way sometimes but it’s not always true. IF I remember correctly, at least your SO talked to his Mom and you know it’s coming soon!
Alright bees I have MANY things I want to share! First of all—No Proposal, and it’s totally all good. This Christmas was the first that we spent with both families and I was able to see just how much my family considers my SO family and his family considers me family as well. Not too bad. I do have some updates that I think some of you might like reading–sort of a ‘what not to do’ lol.
My SO has 2 brothers and one is married and one is not but has been in a long term relationship with her guy. For the better part of the day, I felt a little edged out of the conversations. The married woman kept talking to the unmarried one about getting married, and how she should be talking to her guy about marriage. I had a hard time participating because of how much of the conversation was directed at this other person…and the married one just had her wedding earlier this year and used Xmas as the time to bring out all of her wedding pics and share them. Married one makes comments to the unmarried one like ‘If you have your wedding, you can do this tradition, and I kept this wedding item so you can use it’ etc. Okay–awkward for a waiting bee like myself lol, but I just sat there and smiled and listened like a champ.
I *sort of* feel like the married one was trying to stick her nose where it didn’t belong-at one point she said to me ‘You seem like a mature adult, is it hard to wait on your SO?’ I was FLOORED and honestly if we were NOT in front of my SO’s family and didn’t love him I would have put this b!tch in her place lol. But I simply said ‘SO is supposed to graduate next year, and then we are moving and our lives will progress when it’s supposed to’. She then shut up pretty quick after that.
The men (brothers and father) decided to watch a movie, and the women (SO’s and the boys mother) decided to drink wine and have gossip hour in a different room. And all hell broke loose! After a few drinks, the married one starts bringing up weddings, marriage, the future, etc. And then the unmarried one had a breakdown! She started freaking out a little bit about the future. She first started talking about hating her job, but kept saying how she was worried to relocate without being married, etc, etc and I can obviously relate to this. I tried to stay positive, shared my story, tried to just keep it light–but the married one was like ‘You need to talk about this and figure this out’ and ‘Don’t put it off’ and ‘This doesn’t sound right’, which got the unmarried one all worked up. Then the unmarried one’s SO overheard some of the chatter and knows that these two women were talking about him, and it got worse when the mother pointed out that she sounded very unhappy and suggested that the unmarried ones ‘take a break’. UGH. Which led to the unmarried one telling her SO’s mother to shut up and back off!
My point here is that I am not sure if this woman was trying to cause drama by asking honest questions about everyone’s relationship or if sometimes when we are waiting (even if we are not waiting bees), it’s easy to focus in on what we DON’T have and easy to FEEL as though others are passing judgements. I got lucky I suppose as I have already been to this website, and found a lot of advice and when I simply stated it was going to happen and shut the conversation down, we changed subjects. But if you are feeling like you are freaking out a little bit, please don’t talk about it while drinking in front of your SO’s mother!!!!!
I hope that none of you ever have an experience like this.
How’s everyone else? Any crazy stories to share?