Post # 1
Hello There Bees!
Let me tell you, I am one busy bee! Midterms, projects, organizations, meetings, conferences….. And yet somehow I’m still distracted by waiting! Pinterest is a time suck for me. I have almost 2000 pins JUST in my wedding board! Honestly I would be a wedding planner if I wasn’t in pharmacy because I just love them so much!
What are your guilty pleasures when it comes to wedding related things?
Remember, we are all here for each other. The pact is here if-and-only-if you feel you need it. There will be times when it is perfectly acceptable to NOT shut-it-up and it is up to each individual bee to decide to participate. This isn’t about denying your feelings or keeping mum on a subject that is important to you. It is about ACCOUNTABILITY!
• Do not start a wedding related conversation with your SO.
• If your SO (or Mom, sister, best friend) mentions wedding items, you have the right to respond, but be cool.
IF YOU WERE INTERESTED IN THE “PENALTY” FOR BREAKING THE PACT THE NEW RULE IS AS FOLLOWS:
• IF YOU BREAK THE PACT AT ANY POINT WITHIN THE TWO WEEK TIMEFRAME YOU MUST PUT $1 FOR ALL FIRST TIME AND SECOND TIME OFFENSES IN A JAR THAT YOU CAN NOT TOUCH UNTIL YOU ARE OFFICIALLY ENGAGED. IF YOU CONTINUE TO BREAK THE PACT THE AMOUNT OF MONEY THAT GOES IN THE JAR WILL INCREASE, FOR EXAMPLE ON YOUR THIRD OFFENSE YOU MUST PUT $2 DOLLARS IN THE JAR…AND SO ON. EACH PACT THE DOLLAR AMOUNT WILL START FROM SCRATCH BECAUSE YOU ARE BEING GIVEN A CLEAN SLATE WITH THE NEW PACT.
IF YOU ARE INTERESTED IN THE “PENALTY” PLEASE LEAVE A NOTE SAYING THAT YOU ARE INTERESTED SO THAT I CAN KEEP YOUR NAMES WRITTEN DOWN JUST AS A TALLY OF WHO IS INTERESTED. YOU ARE WELCOME TO SHARE PICTURES OF YOUR JARS WITH THE PENALTY DOLLARS OR YOU CAN KEEP IT PRIVATE, ULTIMATELY NO ONE CAN HOLD YOU ACCOUNTABLE TO THIS BUT YOU. I WILL BE POSTING MINE. AT THE END OF IT ALL IT IS A BENEFIT TO US BUT IF YOU ARE NOT INTERESTED I COMPLETELY UNDERSTAND. GOOD LUCK!
Please remember to check in towards the end of the pact and update us on how many days you’ve kept quiet! May the odds be ever in your forever!!!
Post # 2
Ok, I’m in. I’ll make my jar when I get home. 🙂 Talking wedding stuff with fellow bees is my outlet so I don’t exhaust my SO, friends, and family with wedding talk. At the end of each stage (I’ll play pre-engagement and pre-wedding phases) I’ll use the money in the jar to buy treats for the people who’ve had to listen to my wedding talk if I break the rules. I’m technically pre-engaged right now. My engagement ring is literally sitting on our kitchen counter waiting to be used in a proposal. It’s so hard to know it’s happening but not actually be in “we’re engaged!” mode.
Post # 3
On valentine’s day he was asking about the new left index finger ring I bought for myself. It was a thin pave band and he was like “i thought you didn’t like pave?” to which i told him that I like pave as a band but i don’t want pave on my engagement ring. And today he asked me what my ring size was. I’m trying to ignore and not think too much about it but I will be updating my pinterest ring board in case he’s looking
Post # 4
RobynEileen: I spend my day on Pinterest- I’ve thought about wedding planning honestly. I have…maybe 6 different boards? Some are secret though. My school started late this year( last week of January actually) so we are only in week 4-5 so I don’t have to worry about midterms yet. It looks like since #10 on the waiting list got engaged I finally get to move down a spot! It’s the small things that count, right?
Post # 5
Ugh…I try really hard to not bring it up and be cool, but sometimes i can’t help myself. He has the ring, he knows I know, and yet, I am still waiting since last May!!
Post # 6
Ok, I’ll give this a go. I have been bringing it up more than usual, time for me to shut it up and focus my energy onto my large secret pinterest board instead. Wish me luck!!
Post # 7
It’s getting harder to keep my lips zipped!
SO has the ring, it arrived 2 days ago. He has told me I won’t be waiting too long and it will be “soon”. Last night I was feeling a little anxious (I’m a planner and hate surprises) and he asked what was wrong. I said that although I am very excited about getting engaged I’m feeling nervous and anxious too of not knowing when and worrying that I’m going to get my hopes up for a certain date and then it doesn’t happen and I’m disappointed.
He said what were some of the dates I was thinking and I listed a few and he told me it is one of three: Our weekend away on March 19th, weekend away over Easter March 26th or our anniversary April 12th (but we go to dinner April 16th).
I’m pretty sure it’s the first weekend away but trying not to overthink it.
Post # 8
My guilty pleasure is planning BF’s engagement ring and pinterest. I have an engagement ring board, a wedding band board, a trinity ring/matching wedding band board, a ring board for Boyfriend or Best Friend, and CZ ring board. I’ve been photoshopping the stone I want with the setting I want and add it to my engagement board so he can see what it would look like. Lately I’ve been trying to find elements of fashion in dresses I like and adding them to my weddingboard. I might start separating dresses from other wedding pins… My cousin who is added on all of the mentioned boards has been married 5 years and thinks I’m bonkers. Lol!
I just ordered BF’s sapphires who h should be here within a week!
Post # 9
Guilty pleasures? Looking at rings. I can’t stop! I do have to say, my SO remarked today “You have been pretty quiet on the ring front for the past while” and I was like “Well yeah, I’m trying to play it cool. I don’t want to be pushy” hahaha. Yesterday he said he wanted us to look through rings again and pick one together because he’s ready to buy this week. EEK!
I still think it’ll be a few months before he asks, but I’m super excited!
Post # 10
Help!!! I visit my dream rings website like its a family member in ICU, I LIVE inside of my Pinterest wedding board.
Happy to find this post because I made a pact with myself to let it go and stop badgering him about it when his only answer is always “soon”. It was killing me today because I need him to know two more things about the purchase and proposal… But Im gonna chill out and slide it into conversation if he mentions something remotely close to that subject. Lol
This is so haAarrddd!! Ugghhh!!!
Post # 11
I think I finally need to join the SIUP. After a good convo on Valentines Day (after I apparently failed at disguising my dissapoinment w/ lack of proposal), I know we are now on same page and I just need to zip it and let it happen haha. I would say wedding dresses (and thus say yes to the dress) is my guiltiest pleasure.
Post # 12
Ok, I’m in. I can’t contain my excitement and anxiousness anymore. SO has told me its gonna happen before the end of this month but he also told me that last month too, but we had some unexpected household expenses in Jan. so I understand why it didn’t happen. I have been bringing it up every single day though and I can tell its driving SO crazy because I keep saying “it’s okay if it doesn’t happen this month” when really I want to scream “No! It’s NOT okay!”. I know he wants it to be a surprise and he’s told me he knows exactly where he wants to propose and has dropped a few hints. I am just anxious that I can’t shut up about it. It’s already the 17th and I’m like what the heck are you waiting for and I’m starting to lose faith that it will be this month.
Post # 13
Telling on myself, had to had a dollar to the jar last night. I brought it up with some classmates. Oops.
Post # 14
Promise I’ll read everyone’s posts tomorrow but I’m just checking in with the break I’m about to do- we just got told TODAY that even though our rotation selections for next year are due next week we need to select a vacation block by close of business TOMORROW and as I would rather not be giddy and distracted [or sulking and upset] during my enitre first block (3 days after the end of my deadline) I would like to get some idea of if I need to schedule it sooner or later. UGH
Post # 15
My SO is planning to buy the ring *soon* like… within the next week, I think.
So I’m going to try to stay extra mum about it because now it’s in his hands. I kind of feel like if I can get my mind off the ring and proposal, I will be extra surprised when he asks. I mean, I’ve been ring bananas the last few days because he said he wanted to pick a ring this week, so now that we’ve done that, my job is done.
I have a painting project planned, and a book to read for a book club, so I have a few things to keep me busy for a bit 🙂