Post # 1
This past week I made several DIY artsy projects, and it felt really good to get back into it. What are some of your hobbies?
Remember, we are all here for each other. The pact is here if-and-only-if you feel you need it. There will be times when it is perfectly acceptable to NOT shut-it-up and it is up to each individual bee to decide to participate. This isn’t about denying your feelings or keeping mum on a subject that is important to you. It is about ACCOUNTABILITY!
• Do not start a wedding related conversation with your SO.
• If your SO (or Mom, sister, best friend) mentions wedding items, you have the right to respond, but be cool.
IF YOU WERE INTERESTED IN THE “PENALTY” FOR BREAKING THE PACT THE NEW RULE IS AS FOLLOWS:
• IF YOU BREAK THE PACT AT ANY POINT WITHIN THE TWO WEEK TIMEFRAME YOU MUST PUT $1 FOR ALL FIRST TIME AND SECOND TIME OFFENSES IN A JAR THAT YOU CAN NOT TOUCH UNTIL YOU ARE OFFICIALLY ENGAGED. IF YOU CONTINUE TO BREAK THE PACT THE AMOUNT OF MONEY THAT GOES IN THE JAR WILL INCREASE, FOR EXAMPLE ON YOUR THIRD OFFENSE YOU MUST PUT $2 DOLLARS IN THE JAR…AND SO ON. EACH PACT THE DOLLAR AMOUNT WILL START FROM SCRATCH BECAUSE YOU ARE BEING GIVEN A CLEAN SLATE WITH THE NEW PACT.
Please remember to check in towards the end of the pact and update us on how many days you’ve kept quiet! May the odds be ever in your forever!!!
Post # 2
I’m a new-bee who lurked for a while but I’m going to try this pact too despite my lack of discipline. He knows what I want anyway so I should keep my mouth closed.
I enjoy running and the bf recently ran a marathon so if he can handle me then he knows what he’s getting himself into.
I also really like reading so I am on my 41st book in 2016 which ought to be a great distraction.
Op any photos of your projects?
Post # 3
I think I might give this a go too! My SO has assured me that a proposal is on his mind, if a while off, so talking about it will only stress us both out.
I’m into origami, and I’m slowly filling my apartment with little paper animals. I think I’m going to start working on a herd of little elephants next! I want to get back into running and yoga too, so we’ll see how that goes!
becks90: 41 books is pretty cool! What are you reading?
Post # 4
lauralaura123: Oh, this is challenging! My SO and I went to dinner on the weekend and I just couldn’t help it but drop hints about our “next” holiday which we have agreed will be our honeymoon. Argh! I was sooooo quite about not bringing anything wedding related the past fornight either and then despite telling myself numerous times in my head to not say a thing to him at dinner, I did the opposite! That was one day. Since then, I’m back to keeping quite. But it such a challenge! Most days, I try and keep it cool. But if you’ve read up on my previous posts outlining my relationship history, you can understand why I’d be nagging so much. But a friendly reminder that I have been a good Bee in general and have been keeping quite.
I don’t have much waiting to do. I’ve been led to believe that the proposal will occur in June (NEXT MONTH!!).
So I’m following this thread. I like reading as well though haven’t read as many books as @becks90 And I also run 5kms 1 day a week and go to the gym 3 times a week. I also love dedicating about an hr of internet time a day (when I can) to Wedding Bee forum! I just love the support on here. And the brutal honesty.
Good luck to all Bees out there with this!
Post # 5
becks90: Hi, just testing this tag. Unsure how to tag tbh.
Post # 7
lauralaura123: signing the pact!!!
anonp: not easy ugh, in the similar boat here. stay strong bee 🙂
Post # 8
Joining in! My first 2 weeks went great! No wedding talk coming from me even though it’s about killing me, especially with seeing literally 10 different weddings and 5 engagements a weekend on my Facebook.
I’m really into fitness and will continue to really work to build my health and fitness coaching business up. I send a lot of time reaching out to clients and potential clients.
I’ve also gotten in to reading and listening to self motivation type books which really helps.
Post # 9
lavenderlady: I’m reading Hold Tight by Harlan Coben I love crime novels. Origami takes a lot of patience so go you!
anonp: I got so excited about your June anticipated proposal that’s so exciting. Keep distracting yourself until then.
lauralaura123: I really like your craftiness 🙂 it’s very cool.
Post # 10
I’m going on a hiking trip on Saturday and we’re getting everything ready. My friend and brother both got engaged last week so he knows I’m upset. He says “very very soon” but I don’t think it’s gonna happen on this trip because I’ve had to plan everything out myself.
Post # 11
Well I went looking for the ring hoping to find it in the hiking bags but found it in his dresser. You never know, he could be waiting to put it in the bags for our trip until the last minute or he could just be waiting to do something more romantic as a proposal.
Post # 12
Jadegreen: What do u think is worse? Knowing approx. when SO will propose or knowing he has the ring? I’m unsure if my SO has the ring despite him telling me he’s visited the jeweler. He has led me to believe that the proposal will happen in June though. . . . .
Post # 13
I think it is worse to know he has the ring because you know you’re so close and definitely in extreme waiting territory. It’s however quite scary that on here some bees know their Fiance has the ring for a year before proposing. I wouldn’t be able to handle it .
Post # 14
I’m going to join this. My SO isn’t at all bothered by me talking about wedding and engagement related stuff. In fact, it makes him really excited and he always tells me he’s happy when I bring it up. THAT SAID, I think I need to chill the heck out, personally, for my own sanity. Which is why I’m going to join this pact.
I also think it’s worse to know he has the ring…. As excited as I’ll be if I find out he’s got it in hand, I know I’ll go insane trying to predict when a proposal will happen and I won’t be able to just sit and enjoy any dates or activities. Although I’m excited for a proposal this summer, there’s something to be said for being pretty sure he doesn’t have the ring yet. No stress.
Let us know what happens on your hiking trip, JadeGreen!
Post # 15
Crap, I already messed up. I mentioned wedding registries off-hand while talking about whether or not we should buy a wok. I lasted a whole 6 hours. There goes $1….