(Closed) The Shut It Up Pact (SIUP) – May 1st-15th

posted 4 years ago in Waiting
Post # 16
550 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2017 - Friendship Plaza

tward8:  Ah, hon – I am so sorry for your loss. I can relate to the soul-searching — I did a LOT while waiting, and in part I looked at it as a meditation on patience and trust and examination of who I am and what I want. It’s an important time, whatever happens – even if it can be angst-filled sometimes — and mine certainly was, as he’s had the ring so long.

But he proposed this past weekend and as it turns out, had been planning something elaborate – especially for him! – for a few months. If you’re waiting and he has it, my best advice is to distract yourself and focus on YOU – most men will have a plan!

Post # 17
863 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2017 - historical mansion

lauralaura123:  Oops! Sorry! I am an idiot. I was reading @thessely’s story. I hope your wait will be over soon.

Post # 18
75 posts
Worker bee

I will join!  My boyfriend and I have been together about 2.5 years and are in our late 20s. We are happy and in love, and picked out a ring together a week or so ago. 


I am incredibly type-A and a planner, whereas he is more relaxed and go-with-the-flow. I love him for it and we joke that we make a perfect team.  For example, last summer I planned a romantic getaway, and obsessively figured out every detail ahead of time and created a strict itinerary that included an outdoor lighthouse tour… and then the weather changed to rain and I wanted to cry my eyes out.  But he kissed me in the downpour (it was like a movie, bees!) and then pull me into a local pub, where we spent all day sampling eclectic beers and small plates and having interesting conversations with the locals.


I want to be chill about this and let him do his thing. But oh my god, is it hard.  I find myself doing sneaky things like planning romantic weekend getaways that would be PERFECT for a proposal … and I am driving myself insane.  I know him, and my guess is he will find a small, romantic, unexpected moment to propose, which will be so lovely.


He knows me too, and he knows my tendencies.  He knows I hate surprises and things that are unplanned.  This is why he involved me in ring shopping and has told me it will happen before the end of the summer.  I keep finding myself talking to him about rings and proposals and begging for details, so he gives me status updates – like he told me the other day that they were inspecting the diamond and would ship soon.  I NEED to “Shut It Up” because I swear I am going to ruin a good thing.


help meeee!! lol.  This summer I am going to focus on fitness (I’ve been jogging and doing weight training), and my dissertation work (I have 1 year left of my phd program, ahhh!!)

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