(Closed) The Single Hardest Part of Wedding Planning – What was it for you?

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: What has been the single hardest part of wedding planning for you?
    Deciding who to invite/not invite : (23 votes)
    32 %
    Actually choosing/making/ordering/addressing/sending the invitations : (8 votes)
    11 %
    Choosing a venue/caterer or deciding on menu/bar options : (7 votes)
    10 %
    Choosing colours & BM dresses : (0 votes)
    Choosing your own dress/shoes/accessories : (1 votes)
    1 %
    Choosing the wedding party : (2 votes)
    3 %
    Choosing a date : (0 votes)
    Flower stuff : (1 votes)
    1 %
    Music/DJ stuff : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    3520 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Mine was more of a global getting everything done on time.

    Post # 4
    5371 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

    Guestlist for us too! We want a small wedding but it’s so hard to decide who to invite 🙁

    Post # 5
    6248 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 1900

    1. The budget, because Fiance kept shifting it to have a bigger wedding.
    2. The venue, which ties in with the budget.

    Post # 6
    286 posts
    Helper bee

    planning from a different city…lol.

    Post # 7
    451 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Honestly- the guest list didn’t give me much of a headache. Do I want everyone I know there? Sure. But it’s not reasonable for us, so we only chose our nearest and dearest.


    I think invitations are going to be the killer. I LOVE all of the options, and I can’t make up my mind. I just love paper products.


    Post # 9
    1629 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    Seating chart. Man, screw that thing.

    Post # 11
    7339 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    As of right now the guest list fooooor sure!!! I wish I didn’t need to invite a lot of my family due to us not talking but our of respect and beeing the bigger person ill send them one anyways, if they come great if not oh well I did my part. The other aspect that I’m not looking forward too is the seating plan, we have a lot of couples that are seperated/divorced and we can’t seat them near each other. That should be interesting….

    Post # 12
    658 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Planning from a different state for sure. Def hard when you can’t just stop by and talk to someone face to face

    Post # 13
    9483 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I voted for budget since it was such a roller coaster ride for us.  We had no idea where we stood with Future In-Laws and I was ready to give up.  Please make these next 6 months go by faster.

    ETA: The shoes are killing me too.  I can’t seem to find a pair I really like and actually want to spend money on!

    Post # 14
    812 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Right now, the hardest part is just getting our parents to give us a list of family members and their friends that we need to invite.

    To be fair, my father is fighting stage 4 esophagael cancer and FI’s father is dealing with a lot of medical issues and has been in and out othe hospital several times over the past month, so I am in no way complaining. I completely understand and hurt for both our fathers. I just feel like I’m in a holding pattern and can’t really move forth until things get right.

    Post # 15
    1413 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    The guest list has definitely been the most challenging…but not just deciding WHO to invite but trying to get people to RSVP with a simple yes or no. I had a couple people who could only give me “maybe”. Not helpful at all! There was also the issue of people wanting to bring a guest who we didn’t invite.

    One of my friends sent me a text last night and said “I’m bringing a date to the wedding now so please add them to your list”. Then I had the awkward task of telling him that he can’t bring a date so he had to uninvite her Undecided. Even if we were allowing people to bring a date, it’s already way past the RSVP deadline so it wasn’t really fair of him to just assume he could bring someone at this point.

    The other RSVP drama was thanks to my aunt. I have a huge family with a ton of cousins (I have over 30 first cousins on one side of the family) so I didn’t invite ALL of them to the wedding. I got a call from my aunt and she asked if I had forgot to include her two sons names on the invitation I sent her because it was only addressed to her and my uncle (umm, no..they just weren’t invited…but anyways!). Since she put me on the spot and I’m a ridiculously nice person, I caved and told her she could bring them if she wanted.

    As if that wasn’t bad enough, she told the rest of my family that since I had an extra line on my RSVP cards, they too could write down their kids names if they want to bring them. GAH!

    Sometimes I wonder how people can be so naive about wedding protocol.  It’s not like they haven’t been to a bajillion weddings in their lives already. They’re all older people who should know better!

    Post # 16
    45 posts
    • Wedding: November 2010

    For me, it was choosing the wedding party.  

    As well, giving up control the day of. was really hard for me (i’m a bit of a control freak).  We DIY’ed most of our wedding, and left it up to close family members to set up the morning of.  If i had it my way, i would have been at the venue into the wee hours setting it all up myself.  But looking back, it was perfect 🙂

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