(Closed) The size of the stone

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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520 posts
Busy bee

As you know and have stated, rings come in all different sizes and price ranges and it has nothing to do with the love and committment it represents.  From what you say, it sounds like it looks good on your hand. Since you have small hands and fingers, he may have been going for somthing pretty and sweet.  If it’s really bothering you, I would talk to him, if I were you.  A lot of times men are clueless when it comes to jewelry. 

And it might have been all he could comfortably afford at the time….. 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m perfectly happy with my diamond size and wouldn’t want anything bigger on my hand. I love the diamond, my Fiance, and what it symbolizes. However, I get diamond evny sometimes also.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

yes i have a half carat and i am thrilled with my ring has a princess cut center diamond and 8 princess cut dimaonds on both sides. its kind of funny because my ring gets caught everywhere the middle stone is pretty high up and i cant put anything in my pocket my hand will get stuck because of the ring and because its a princess cut if i move my hand at night sometimes i scratch my fiance with it!! its deadly !!!! but i love it and i love how its perfect for me it has a very antique look its def more then i would ever spend on jewlery but it came from my fiance

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My Dear Fiance and I are high school sweethearts and yes we’re young college students (engaged when I was 20 and he was 21, getting married when I’m 23 and he’s 24) and have tiny fingers too (size 4) which probably makes my ring look even bigger (center stone alone is 1.23 carats) and yes I get a lot of comments on it. People always make remarks, the majority are genuine and sweet (ages 5 to people in their mid 50’s). A few are snarky and rude (those are from the 60+ year old billionaires who have 10+ carat rings), but it doesn’t bother me. I love my ring and it’s straight from DF’s heart so that’s all that matter. I will admit it’s bigger than I thought my engagement ring would be, but Dear Fiance was able to afford it and he said he wanted to get it for me. Size doesn’t matter, it’s the symbolism behind it. So wear your ring with pride sweetie!! And wear it in good health!!

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

The thing is, did you love the ring before snarky people commented on it? Is there that warm feeling you get when you wear the ring or the fact that as the years go by and you and your husband make memories that diamond ring that may have seemed small before one of the shiniest, dearest things that you own. If it was all he could afford then think of how much work he got in to buy it. My fiance got some crap for getting me a ring that didn’t have a diamond but you know what? Who cares? I love my ring and I would coldly tell anyone who critisizes it or tries to make me feel bad about the ring  “This is my ring. My fiance got me this ring. It may not be YOUR taste but then again I know that this ring means more to me then appearances mean for you.”

Don’t look at your fiance with resentment, make memories that make that ring shiny and big. When you feel jealous…get a manicure. Make your hands and nails PERFECT so hey, the diamond may look small but it looks gorgeous on your hand.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

We are both established people with good jobs, homes, savings accounts.  My ring is on the “smaller” side, 5/8ct TW, with approx 1/4 center stone.  We could afford to spend a lot more on a ring, but it was important to that we save that $ for other things.  My ring is gorgeous and I love it.  LOVE it.  Who cares if other people think it’s small.  I think the fact that he loves you and wants to marry you is all that matters.  It’s better to enter a marriage without great debt than to get a big diamond.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My ring is a fake $30 ring, but I love it. The jewelry store messed up the day he was proposing, so he bought this ring instead. We used the money for our wedding and he was laid off two weeks before our wedding as well. I love my stunt double ring and we’re married. Does it mean he loves me less because he spent $30 on it? NO. Do I care what others think about it? NO.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

@TheFutureMcBride:  I also have a $30 ring!  You know what, sometimes, I’m sad that’s all he could get but his comittment to marrying me is so much more important.  Eventually he’ll surprise me with a new one, but until then I’ll wear my ring proudly!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I love love love my ring. Do I wish it was bigger? Sure, but in the same way I wish we had a billion dollars. My ring while it may be on the smaller side to some is the most important piece of jewelry I own. I never want to have it upgraded or changed because it is so special just as it is. Now FH is more than welcome to buy me other expensive rings for my right hand if we ever win the lottery 🙂

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@beekiss2: Good to know I’m not the only one. I’ve never thought about wanting a more expensive ring. In fact, now that we’re married, I just want to wear my wedding band and not ever have a “real” engagement ring. It just seems like a waste because we’re married and size or types stones don’t matter in day to day life. I’d rather buy a house.

Post # 14
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2867 posts
Sugar bee

@TheFutureMcBride:  Great thinking!!  Maybe I’ll convince my Fiance that we should just get wedding bands!  Money to a downpayment on a house is more worthwhile 🙂

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Bottom line is that we all experience diamond envy once in a while.  It’s completely human to compare what you have to what others have… unfortunately it can cause problems.  I love my ring, I wouldn’t want a bigger stone but I still feel a twinge of jealousy once and a while when I find myself “sizing up” another girl’s stone! 🙂 

My mom’s engagement ring was a 1/5 carat and she wore it with pride for 25 years, until a stone got loose…now she rocks a $12 3-stone ring and gets stopped by strangers to tell her how gorgeous it is!! 

Post # 16
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Busy bee

Women who love jewelry, like me, wil have diamond envy at some point.  Nothing wrong with that.  Styles change, tastes change, along with the ability to purchase higher-priced pieces.  My husband proposed with no ring.  Did it bother me?  Yes, but his love and commitment to me was the more important factor.  Now, many years later, I have a few beautiful diamond rings, but they never give me the memories or feelings that his proposal did.  The most important ring I own is my wedding band. 

So, enjoy your engagement ring for the love and sincerity that comes with it.  Down the line, or maybe with your wedding band, find a way to enhance it.  Other people make rude comments because of jealousy.  Please don’t let them get to you and spoil your joy.  Best wishes.

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