- 8 years ago
- Wedding: May 2010
I was talking to one of my BMs today about my indecision. It seems like every detail I pick for the wedding I soon change. Big things I’m fine with: venue, caterer, photographer, rings… Those decisions I can make. When it comes to decor and details though? I just can’t bring my self to care.
Don’t get me wrong. I do want the wedding and subsequent reception to look and be nice and fun and everything like that… I just can’t decide WHICH nice.
In kind of analyzing my situation, I think its based on me just not seeing the details themselves as important. In my mind I see the location as important (you can have a wedding without one!) and my Fiance as important (he’s half of why we’re having a wedding! (I’m the other half.)) and the food is important… And its important that people we love (and that love us!) are there to celebrate with us. Oh, and its important to not break budget so we can, you know, pay rent and things.
With those things in mind… its really hard for me to look at a flower and decide that I just have to have it or the day will be ruined or anything like that. (Not that any of you would do that.) And since I’m not basing the success of the day around how it looks… its hard for me to pick which flowers I’ll use or what the centerpieces will look like or… anything. Because theres a thousand different flowers and centerpieces and little things that look nice. I can’t just pick one that looks nicer than the others. Or fits us better than the others… I can’t get excited about just one detail?
Anyway. I’m just getting really stressed/frustrated about figuring out what everything will LOOK like. My BMs are probably being driven mad with all of the changes I’ve made (one just about flipped when I said I was thinking about changing the colors a bit…) I mean, theres less than 100 days left. I should probably start getting SOME decor done? I just feel wholly unqualified to do this and its turned into this giant time-suck where I don’t get anything done but try to come up with inspiration… which always fails because I can’t make decisions.
Does anyone else have/had this problem? How are/did you work it out?