- 8 years ago
- Wedding: November 1999
Do not change anything – It is beautiful and is meaningful to yourself and your husband. As a teacher it doesn’t matter how a name is spelt once you know how to say it there are no problems at all. For what it’s worth I have a Dutch friend who I love to pieces and I love her stories about her own name and those of her family members – Dutch names and spellings are wonderful.
Don’t change the spelling because it is going to get pronounced wrong with the new spelling too. I think it is a beautiful name and it looks prettier spelt the “right” way.
I would have to say spell it to where it can be pronounced. I have a name that is considered to be a boy name and my mother decided to put a vowel at the end of it to make it more feminine and because, as she said, “That is how they spell it in Ireland!”. My name is NEVER pronounced correctly. After I correct them, they say “Oh, what a pretty name!” But it would be nice if someone would pronounce it correctly every once in a while. It never bothered me that people always mispelled it, though.
100% Dutch girl here, with 100% a Dutch (hard to pronounce!) name!
My parents went with the “American” spelling, and I swear its worse than if they had just given me the correct Dutch (I also went to a Dutch Christian school!). I really wish they had just given me the original, because then at least I could explain to people the Dutch-ness of it when they ask how to pronounce it!
Thus, I of course vote that you rock the original spelling. 🙂
I’m in the “spell it the normal way” camp (no matter the name). I would have no idea how to pronounce it, but I don’t know anything about Dutch. It seems like Dutch heritage is important to you (and she’ll be going to a Dutch school), so I say stick with the traditional spelling.
You can always give her a more traditional middle name that she can go by if she wants when she gets older.
My family is dutch, so I have several cousins that have the name. People will get used to it! It’s a great name!
My family is Dutch and my last name has the “ij” spelling in it. I remember they told me they had a huge debate about whether to change it to a more Western spelling when they moved to Canada, but I’m so glad they kept it. For many years, our family was the only one in Canada with that last name! It made us so unique!
That said, of course everyone butchers the name. But when I got married, I was surprised how attached I am to it. I decided not to change my name and to keep my ethnic uniqueness.
I say do what feels right. The other ladies are right – that even with the most simple names, people get them wrong all the time. Everyone has to correct people about pronunciations. I felt better about my last name when I heard that even people with “smith” or “jones” were having to correct others.
Wow guys! i can’t believe how much support i have got! This has made me feel so reassured with the choice to use the traditional spelling! For those of you that said school being an issue like i said before our kids will be going to dutch school with dutch teachers who will know the name.
Thanks Everyone again for your answers! i really enjoyed reading them all!
My parents took a name that traditionally ends in a “y” and made it an “i”. I also happen to have grown up during a time when this same name had a popular song and it used the “y” spelling. So everyone spells my name wrong. It’s never bothered me. I couldn’t get personalized things with my name on them as a kid, but that wasn’t a big deal. I’ve always kind of liked that it’s different.
As far as the specific name you picked, OP, I think it’s beautiful, and I love that it has meaning and roots in your heritage. I say go with it.
My husband’s family is Dutch, so I was able to guess the pronunciation of the name. Normally, I hate when names aren’t spelled like they sounds, but I think this name is different for a couple reasons.
1) It’s spelled correctly in its native form, which is also a country you and your husband identify closely with
2) Your daughter will be mostly interacting with other Dutch-speaking people, at least during the first part of her life, so she won’t have to deal with the question too much
3) It’s a family name
I say use the name you love if you have a girl, but be prepared for her to constantly have to spell and pronounce it when she leaves the Dutch-centric community. Also, I don’t know your last name, but no one can figure out how to say or spell our last name, so we want to give our children an easier first name. If your last name is similarly difficult, it might be something to consider. I don’t think your daughter will have a problem when she’s at school and with family friends, but she might encounter more issues in college, work, etc.
I don’t really think its a big deal. You said your kids will be in school with other dutch kids, your church is dutch, your friends are dutch. I think if it suits your family life and you like the same go for it. We could all use a little culture and its nice when every other kid isn’t named Mary or John (nothing against those names btw.)
I wouldn’t, I have a normal name spelled differently and hate hate hate it.
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