(Closed) The "stages" of waiting…

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
539 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@DrD711:  great post and oh-so-accurate! I’ve been through all the stages and am happy to report I’m currently at stage 6 😀 The ring is purchased and it’s only a matter of time! He mentioned Christmas/NYE so I haven’t got very long at all!!!

Post # 4
252 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Definitely between stage 4 and 5! We’ve looked at rings, and I would say my mind-set is smack dab in the middle of those two stages. 

Post # 5
8602 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015



spot on! I flip between 5 and 6 depending on the day.


Absolutely true that you start being happy for other engagements. When I was single/casually dating engagements would make me cry… “wahhh when will it be me “wahhh…. now that Im totally in love and in a marriage bound relationship its… “YAYYY FOR THEM!!!! LOVE IS GRAND!!!”








Post # 9
1626 posts
Bumble bee

@DrD711:  I really like this post!  For me it’s a little simpler:

1)  Dating, loving your SO and thinking ‘maybe we will get married, I like this guy enough to keep dating him anyway’ lol!!

2)  You and your SO talk and realize that you both want to get married.  Officially and happily waiting!

3)  4,5,6, are all the third stage to me–looking at rings, anticipating the proposal, etc.

I really like how you broke it down though!!!  I think it’s different for me because SO is taking the ring shopping and proposal business VERY seriously and so I am not included in the ring shopping process. 

I am in the ‘officially’ waiting #3 and ‘mindful’ waiting #6 according to your metric—but in my metric I’m in my 3rd phase–He’s ring shopping and I’m simply anticipating the proposal in 2014!

Post # 10
72 posts
Worker bee

OMG love this!!  So so so true!  I am currently at 3, and waiting to make that leap to 4!!  

Post # 12
1960 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I guess I’m between 4 and 5. We’ve looked at rings and I picked out the setting I want, but there’s still probably a good year before we actually get engaged. No rush for us, we already live together and we want to save up more money for a house/wedding/grad school before getting engaged. Although I do wish time would speed up a bit!!

Post # 13
1098 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

I’m stage 4… have been for 6 months, and likely will be for a couple of years. I skipped 3, haha. I’m happy in my relationship, but not happily waiting! I’m good at ignoring it day-to-day though, and have NEVER had a breakdown (even the pouting kind) about waiting in front of my SO. He’s 3 years younger than me (he’s 25) so I know that putting such pressure on him would be unfair!

Post # 14
248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@DrD711:  This is perfect! I’m all caught up in ‘Ball of Anxiety” stage. Which isn’t too far from my normal life, honestly. Every once in a while I’ll have an hour or so of Mindful Waiting but I’d be happy to dive head first into it if I could control my crazy mind

Post # 15
1098 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Oh, and we have only been together for (just over) 2 years, so being openly impatient would be silly!

Post # 16
41 posts

Yes.  This is great.  I’m in 5 or 6.  Mostly 5.  Lol


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