Post # 1
And it’s only 8:30.
So a brief little history: I’ve been anxious my whole life. Like severe, chronic anxiety. I’m supposed to be graduating college this year, but I for real can’t get my act together. I go to a prestigious, all womens college in a podunk little town. This year (with the exception of my engagement) my life has basically come undone by the seams. Basically, I’m failing all of my classes (it’s not even because of wedding planning) and I don’t even know if I’ll be going back to school next semester to finish because of financial problems (which I think is contributing to me not even caring).
So on Tuesday I finally broke down and went to see counseling services for an appointment. I told them everything that was going on, and the woman I saw made me an appointment with one of the doctors to get some emergency anxiety pills. So, I went yesterady after my class, and was prescribed Clonazepam. It’s basically like Xanax. I’m not one for medicating, but I figured I had no other choice.
Now, I have an 8:35 class on Tuesdays and Thursdays, but I live off campus. In order for me to get there on time, I have to leave my apartment at 7:00. I had a Stats exam this morning (my 8:35 class is Stats) and I seriously woke up at 8:10. Great. I went to sleep at 9 pm last night so I could be up early for this class. I’ve never once missed an exam, no matter how I’m feeling. At 8:10 there was no way I could get to school. I took my prescribed dose last night, as instructed, because I haven’t been sleeping. And I slept through my stupid exam!!!!
Now I have no idea what to do, emailing my prof is out because he’s a total jerkface. I’m meeting with my Academic dean tomorrow, but I’m worried that, because I didn’t make my exam today, I’m not going to get incompletes for my classes, and then fail them, and then drop out. Ughhh I have no idea what to do. I feel like the world’s biggest failure (No, I’m not fishing for compliments).
And to top it all off, I had a horrible dream that all of the diamonds in my engagement ring fell out..one by one, until they were all gone.
Anywho..Just wanted to vent. Thanks
Post # 3
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Oh man, that’s terrible!!!
I would definitely email the prof and just let him know the reason you missed the test is because you just started taking a new medication and the side effects threw you off. If he doesn’t give you a chance to re-take it, then I would go speak with someone higher up.
I hope your day gets better!! 🙁
Post # 4
Email the professor just to have the record of having emailed him. Even if he doesn’t help you, someone else may be able to help if you have an established paper trail of asking for assistance. Man, that sucks. I’m sorry.
Post # 5
I’m sorry things have been rough for you lately. Hopefully you can find a balance with your medicine and get used to its effects….but of course, you’re just learning how it works now.
I’m not sure what to do about your test, except, yes, just explain it to the prof. Either that, or you say nothing and don’t get a chance to retake it? Maybe he’ll understand.
I know none of this helps, but I just want to send you good vibes. Hope things come together.
Post # 6
Oh that’s awful! I’ve been snowed in before and unable to make a FINAL on time. YOu do have to tell your professor. Can you get on campus today and take it later? Even if he’s a jerkface, you really do have to tell him you started a new medication and it caused you to sleep through it. Tell him you can get him a referral from the department and ask what you can do to rectify the situation. Things happen. If he’s uncooperative, talk to the head of that department. I had to do that once when a professor threatened to fail me and my partner in my last senior semester. The department head laughed and said, “he wont’ fail you. you’re seniors, we don’t do that” and ensured us it was a scare tactic. One he didn’t appreciater this dude using on us.
Post # 7
I know your professor is a jerk, but you need to notify him right now about why you are not there, so that it doesn’t look like you just came up with the excuse later on, or were trying to get more study time– I’d call your prof’s office, or email him, and explain that the school doctor had prescribed a new medication, and that you slept for nearly 12 hours and thus missed the exam. I’m assuming you can’t get there before the exam is finished, right? Does he have office hours today?
Post # 8
Thanks for the good vibes. I just emailed him and explained what had happened. I literally sent it at 835. Hopefully he understands. I’ll be up at campus soon (I have a bus in 10 minutes) but he doesn’t have office hours today. We have a lab tomorrow, so I’ll talk to the TA and see what she says. Then I’ll have the dean to meet with after lab.
Anywho, thanks for being supportive; I hate to be a Debbie Downer 🙁
Post # 9
I’ve had massive anxiety too. Emailed my doctor about it last night, in fact.
Email Professor Jerkface right away, tell him you’ve had a medical issue and the new medication has taken a toll on you.
In the meantime, know you aren’t alone with the anxiety and stress. Good thoughts your way today.
Post # 10
Hang in there! You’ve got a lot on your plate as a college student and dealing with anxiety only makes it more of a challenge. I think it’s really important to use the resources at your disposal like the Health Services/Counseling Services not to mention letting someone you trust like your advisor/Dean/a professor know what is going on so that they can advocate for you as you manage everything.
Good luck and keep looking after yourself – everything else is secondary to your health and well-being!
Post # 11
that is so horrible!!! i am really sorry! I have done that though, slept right through an exam with jerk prof. but really, try to get a hold of them, tell them that you started a new prescription and it made you sleep over. Ask if there is any way you can make up the exam, even if its not for full credit (some is better than none). But try not to stress! It will just make the day worst! Take some deep breaths, try to calm yourself. It will be ok!!!!
Post # 12
Thanks y’all. I emailed prof Jerkface, and his response was, “Please refer to the syllabus for illness.” The syllabus talks about physical sickness lol. Oh well, maybe the dean will help.
Thanks for the thoughts 🙂
Post # 13
Hang in there! Definitely try the dean too – my deans helped a ton when I had to withdraw from a class I was failing as well as when I had mono during finals and had to miss all of them! I also had a “refer to the syllabus” type of professor, but deans can work their magic most of the time. Sending positive thoughts and wishes your way, from one seven sister (I’m a Smithie) to another 😉 Stay strong!
Post # 14
I know exactly how you feel. I too have anxiety, and I was supposed to graduate in 2007 and I needed 2 GE classes to finish, and guess what? I just stopped caring about school and I failed them both 3 TIMES on purpose. I just didn’t do the work. It was totally stupid.
This year I finally admitted to myself that I needed to shape up and finish my dang degree, so I swallowed my pride and reenrolled in school, I’ll be done in a few weeks! It was embarrassing to have to admit to my advisors what I’d done, but in the end I was glad I sought their help. They didn’t judge me and were able to help me get everything in order. I’m glad you took the first step by emailing your professor! If he isn’t cooperative, speaking to a dean or an advisor will help too.
Post # 15
You should get somebody at the Health Center and your doctor on your side here. Anxiety IS a real illness even though some people do not consider it to be. They are ignorant. There are horrible physical symptoms that accompany it, so why shouldn’t it be considered a physical illness? I don’t really like the term “mental illness” because all the things considered to be in that category are the result of chemical imbalances in the brain, which is PHYSICAL. This is a touchy subject for me as I had similar issues in college and was told I would be able to get failing grades wiped clean for medical reasons and then they ultimately screwed me over and I had to spend an extra year in college so I apologize if I’m getting all aggro over here… My main point is that you are well within your rights to be excused for medical reasons here and from personal experience I know you need to make sure you have people going to bat for you on that.
Post # 16
I would respond to the prof again and thank him for his message.
If you can, get a copy of your prescription or find the receipt from when you picked it up to confirm that you only just started taking the medication and had no way to know you would be affected the way you were.