Post # 17
Interesting that so many people here are saying strapless isn’t a fad because strapless gowns have been around before they were nearly the only thing you can find at a bridal shop. I think most everything has been around in dresses for awhile. They just combine different types of patterns that have been around for centuries and create new ones. Whatever is the most prominant feature in a decade is the latest fad or trend. So in the 80’s it was puffy sleeves, even though puffy sleeves existed long before the 1980’s. And that’s not to say that there weren’t dresses in the 80’s that didn’t have puffed sleeves, but it was the most available type of dress at the shops.
I also find it really weird that people say strapless isn’t immodest. And that isn’t to criticize people at all. I have a lot of friends who are all for modesty and wore strapless gowns at their wedding without a problem. I just remember in highschool thinking that strapless was the most immodest type of top you could wear because if you took a picture and cropped it right, it could look like you were naked.
My sister is getting married two months after me, so I’ve got a strapless bridesmaid gown to wear with attachable spegetti straps. Wearing it without the strapes, I just feel naked! Honestly I’m hoping the speggetti straps are enough, because my sister changed her mind and will now not allow me to add any sort of sleeve.
And to be honest, I think those little jacket things are ugly.
As I said, I did find my dress. The only thing about the sleeves that I don’t like is that it restricts my upper arm movement. But I’m so glad I won’t be pulling the top off from falling down or worse yet dealing with a strapless bra that’s sliding down regardless that its so tight around my rib cage that it’ll leave an imprint. I don’t know. Maybe it means I’m boughten the wrong bra size, but I absolutely hate strapless bras.
Post # 18
I was looking for a strapless gown, and only tried on strapless gowns. They were pretty, but just not doing it for me. I found a dress with straps and fell in love. So beautiful!! I think that there are dresses with straps out there, and in good numbers. But finding dresses with sleeves I think you are right, they are few and far between. I think that the reason people have shied away from sleeves are because it can look matronly, people want to avoid the 80s puff look, they restrict your movement, and they can make you too hot. It’s just easier for some to wear strapless. And a properly fitted strapless gown will never give you back cleavage, armpit cleavage, or fall down. Cheap strapless dresses, however, totally will. I think as we continue to divert from the common idea of modesty (what was modest in 1930 vs. in 2010) then dresses will continue to follow the opinion of the majority, and you’ll see fewer and fewer dresses with actual sleeves. Strapped gowns, I think, will always be available though.
Post # 19
I wore a strapless dress and it was so nice not to have to worry about having anything on, and have to worry about sweating or anything with a strapless gown on….it was extremely comfortable. It was “easier” for sure. I would dance and move with ease, plus there are so many more gowns to choose from as well.
Post # 20
Strapless gowns to me are just so… vanilla. Girls look so mass-produced in them, no matter what other interesting things are going on with their dress. There’s a church near where I live that’s very popular for weddings (it’s beautiful!) and it’s too bad to see the parade of cookie-cutter brides all with the same basic neckline.
Didn’t Miss Oyster just post on this on the Bee? She linked to a video from Vera Wang, who did Ivanka Trump’s wedding dress, and Vera talks about how as a designer the strapless look has become soooooooo booooooooring. My mother was also telling me about an episode of the Today show she saw featuring gowns from Ralph Lauren (I think it was R.L.) and they discussed the strapless trend and he said the same thing! But he had to design strapless gowns, he said, because he needed to make a living and those were the ones that would sell.
I am pretty worried that I will look horrible in everything but strapless though… I just have a sinking feeling… and then I will have to join the strapless parade!
Post # 21
I really wanted a V-neck dress and I found one. However, there were WAY too many strapless dress to weed through until I found “the one”.
Post # 22
I think that saying that everyone who wears a strapless dress is “cookie cutter” is kind of a judgement call. I mean, then those who wear red dresses can say all the white dress brides are cookie cutter. And all the teacup length dress brides can call the ballroom length brides cookie cutter. It’s definitely an opinion thing. I don’t see strapless as a cookie cutter trend, I think it’s popular because it looks great on MANY body types!
Post # 23
There are definitely a ton of strapless dresses out there. I went to several different stores in several different states when I was trying on dresses, and a vast majority of them were strapless. Although I don’t have any problem with strapless dresses, I felt like they are becomming so popular lately that it sort of makes all wedding dresses look the same. They are all very pretty – but all look somewhat the same as well. Every time I see a picture of a bride in a non-strapless dress I always remember it because I am blown away by how unexpected and unique it looks – even if it really isn’t! One of my top contender dresses was strapless, and it was still completely modest and covered everything and it looked great, but I decided to purchase the non-stapless dress simply because it looked so different and unique and I felt like I hadn’t seen a billion of it lately.
Post # 24
It’s unfortunate that brides who want to wear dresses with sleeves have a more difficult time finding dresses. However, I agree with MightySapphire that calling strapless dresses vanilla is a bit judgmental.
I orginally had no desire to wear a strapless gown and tried on many with straps (I wasn’t looking for sleeves). But in the end I found a strapless dress that was gorgeous and decided to buy it. It looked great on me and it was in my price range. I don’t care if everyone in the world was wearing this same dress, I love it.
The wedding industry is designed to make a profit. If strapless is in and popular, that’s what they are going to continue to produce and market. Other dress styles are available, they are just a little harder to locate. You can always try designing and having a dress custom made to fit your individual style.
Post # 25
I didn’t want strapless at first but ended up with one…it was just the best dress out of my options!
As to the cookie cutter thing…I mean anyone could call anything cookie cutter. I think if cookie cutter is the basic styles going on right now and in recent memory then yeah it’s pretty vanilla. But who cares, nothing wrong with vanilla. I like vanilla. I like my long, white, strapless gown. The first time my fiance said anything about marriage, he said, “I could see you in a white dress.” (NOT that everyone has to keep that particular traditional aspect, or any, for that matter.) Being a cookie cutter bride to me is not a bad thing..it’s what my parents did and his parents did and their parents did and I can’t wait!
Post # 26
I think by definition a strapless dress would be “less modest” than a dress with straps, simply because the more skin a dress shows, the less modest it is. Although I’m not sure if I personally find it immodest, as in inappropriate. I think there are other fashion styles that are worse. Showing shoulders isn’t as immodest as a plunging neckline, or super duper cleavage, or a coin slot or whatever. (wedding gown or otherwise.)
@ twoangels, I’m glad you posted this:
“Interesting that so many people here are saying strapless isn’t a fad because strapless gowns have been around before they were nearly the only thing you can find at a bridal shop. I think most everything has been around in dresses for awhile. They just combine different types of patterns that have been around for centuries and create new ones. Whatever is the most prominant feature in a decade is the latest fad or trend. So in the 80’s it was puffy sleeves, even though puffy sleeves existed long before the 1980’s. And that’s not to say that there weren’t dresses in the 80’s that didn’t have puffed sleeves, but it was the most available type of dress at the shops.”
I completely agree. If you didn’t write it, I would. I think strapless is totally a fad because it’s what’s popular now. And some time in the future, something else will be popular.
Post # 27
Tastes change with time. I’m sure 15 years ago when everything was about the ballgown look, girls who wanted mermaids complained to their friends about their lack of options.
On another issue, I’ld prefer if the OP didn’t refer to strapless dresses as a fad, though, as that is such a pejorative term. It isn’t your taste, and there isn’t anything wrong with that. But it is the taste of others, so maybe be a bit more careful with your phrasing? I’m sure it wasn’t intentional, but consider how much less negative the term trend is than fad.
Post # 28
I just think that calling all strapless dresses “cookie cutter” is kind of…insane. It’s just one aspect of a dress, and a strapless dress can be long or short, full or puffy as can be, it can satin, it can be chiffon, it can be cotton, heck it can be wool. It can be simple or ornate, it can be colored or white as snow. It can be body-hugging or loose. You get the picture. It’s just one element that can be combined with a million other variants, and to say that strapless dress=cookie cutter is just senseless to me. Yeah, it’s the most available option across the board atm, but I would never ever say that I haven’t seen a million interesting, creative, and unique strapless dresses. Unless your dress has some wild and crazy asymmetrical/wheel re-inventing neckline that has never been done by a designer before in the history of fashion (which I doubt is even possible), that assertion seems pretty outrageous.
Post # 29
When I went shopping, I knew I didn’t want a strapless, and the salon I went to certainly wasn’t lacking in options with straps and even sleeves. I tried on one with elbow-length lace sleeves and it was stunning, but not right for a daytime May wedding.
My reasons for not wanting strapless is that I worried it would have to be really tight with lots of boning to stay up on me, and would be uncomfortable. I tried on a VERY immodest Allure dress with cap sleeves – hello cleavage! I disagree that strapless is immodest, especially with a straight-across neckline.
Post # 30
Hope I wasn’t being offensive when I said strapless = cookie-cutter to me! There’s a reason strapless is so popular, and that’s because it’s a very flattering style. So many brides look gorgeous in it! And it’s easy to wear too.. which is why I might end up in it… but I just can’t help it, it seems like every bride on my block, you don’t even have to go to the wedding, you know what she wore – strapless white dress. Maybe I am looking at too much wedding p0rn and that’s why I have Strapless Dress Fatigue.
Post # 31
Honestly, strapless dresses looked best on me! When i went dress hunting, there was NO WAY i wanted a strapless. I liked sleeves, halters, something going on. Unfortunately they were all terribly unflattering on me. They were beautiful on the racks but just not flattering on my body type. So i ended up with strapless.
There is a difference between non-strapless dresses and MODEST dresses, though. Your typical modest dresses are usually for church requirements and they have a very different look than your non-strapless dresses. I find them kind of heavy and the ones I’ve liked the most have been the non-modest dresses that were altered and had their modesty panels added afterwards. They looked less like t-shirt+dress (some of them do), but like a wedding dress. I tried on some non-strapless dresses that were very inappropriate on me. Even in the right size, they were too revealing. I don’t think shoulders=immodesty, I think too much cleavage does!
But trust me, strapless bras are NOTHING like a strapless wedding dress. I stay away from strapless clothes in general (i’m a 36DD and nothing is worse than tugging up a bra all night) but my dress was neither super tight nor uncomfortable and I was incredibly surprised when I put one on–it totally banished all my preconceived notions about strapless wedding dresses.