Post # 32
I usually avoid strapless stuff too–most tops and dresses just don’t provide the proper support, and since I was sixteen I’ve been on the hunt for the best all-around strapless bra. I’ve tried a lot for my 34B chest (so yeah, not big at all) and frankly, some have been better than others but they all get tugged up throughout the day/night ad nauseam. But that didn’t feel like it could possibly be a problem in the strapless dresses I tried on. Like a previous poster mentioned, a well-made dress won’t allow your boobies to go anywhere. The strapless dresses I’ve tried were so structured around that area that I knew everything would be ay-okay all night.
Post # 33
I actually agree with the original poster. If you look at many of the popular designers, they thend to have a 1:5 (approximate!) straps:strapless ratio in their dresses. In my opinion, strapless is definitelynot the most flatering design on all the women who chose it.
When I was shopping with a friend of mine 7 years ago, the trend was opposite. Fashion does tend to go in cycles and have fads. Right now, strapless is a fad. As someone who really did not want a strapless gown, I found it really difficult to find a dress that had straps and did not have a plunging neckline. It is nice to see some recent designers such as Vera Wang, bring straps back into their designs.
Post # 34
oh i’ve ALWAYS wanted a strapless dress.
even in every day life i don’t like wearing sleeves. i wear tanks or strapless all the time and if it’s cold i throw a loose shrug on.
but i understand your frustration. i can’t even imagine looking for a dress with sleeves because there are none! unless you want like, a grandma dress, but they’re really kinda ugly 😛
Post # 35
I guess in terms of modesty, it can really differ based on your body type. For me, my choices seemed to be having an inch of fabric going over my shoulders and showing TONS of cleavage (totally immodest!), or sacrificing that inch of fabric by having a strapless dress and having a higher neckline and doesn’t show any cleavage. So for me anyway, I thought showing my shoulders in a strapless dress was much more modest than having my chest spilling out of a v-neck dress with a halter or cap sleeves.
Post # 36
I was adamently against strapless gowns–so much so that I didn’t even try one on at all…..I did not listen to the suggestion that I could wear a bolero. I don’t want to wear a bolero! I did notice that many of the non-strapless gowns were more revealing so I was pretty frustrated. Finally, I found the perfect dress that had little sleeves, showed a little cleavage but not too much. It does have a low back, but not alarming low and I will wear my long hair down and a veil, so that will be fine. The dress is perfect!! can’t wait to wear it! I’m glad I didn’t compromise on what I wanted and I’m glad I didn’t give in to another strapless gown.
Post # 37
I asked the question about how does strapless equal less modesty because usually dresses with straps show more cleavage or back. At least of the ones I’ve seen, you’re showing the same amount of skin or more, just in different places.
According to dictionary.com –
a temporary fashion, notion, manner of conduct, etc., esp. one followed enthusiastically by a group.
So those of us who were objecting to the term fad were doing it because temporary probably isn’t the best description.
Obviously brides who want more options should be able to have those options. But to call strapless dresses cookie-cutter is really short sighted – maybe if we only had strapless dresses. But they’re a majority, not the only kind of dress. And the necklines within strapless styles vary so much that I think it’s a moot point.
Post # 38
I very much agree with lilyfaith. Strapless does not automatically mean less modesty. How modest a dress is has to be taken in consideration on a dress-by-dress basis and is also very dependent on the person judging it. I am sure there a lot of dresses you would consider immodest that others do not.
For example, this dress has sleeves but it is extremely low and I wouldn’t feel comfortable wearing it. By your current statements, you might consider this dress more modest than a strapless dress. I’m just hoping to show you that you cannot make a blanket statement and consider it to be always true.
I am sure it is very frustrating for you to find dresses that are not strapless because they are not within your taste guidelines. I would be extremely frustrated as well but I think it’s pretty judgmental to call people who like strapless dress as jumping on a fad or that we’re all immodest for picking dresses that are strapless.
Post # 39
i dont think strapless gowns are a fad – i DO think that gowns that are a bit more “risque” are a fad though.
some of the dresses i see in bridal stores nowadays i would NEVER think of wearing it in a church.
but then again, more and more brides are getting married outside of a church (or other places of worship for that matter) so maybe thats part of the fad.
personally i think a wedding dress should be flattering to the bride, not trashy, and not something that you will be embarrassed about 20 years from now.
some of the most beautiful gowns i have seen from long ago were strapless, or somewhat fitted. its the trashy factor that i cringe at for some of the dresses.
you can definately be modest AND strapless.
Post # 40
- Wedding: May 2010 - Carlouel Yacht Club
I wouldn’t say that strapless dresses are a “fad.” I mean, in the end, how many different necklines are out there? You wear what is comfortable and flattering to you. For instance, although I liked dresses with straps/sleeves/halter/etc, they cut off the line of my body and made me look shorter. Strapless dresses looked the most flattering on me, so I went with that!
Post # 41
twoangels-i totally agree with you. it is just so non-traditional. but…i have a sleevless gown but only bc i could not find one with sleeves! i have been on a hunt for sleeves/bolero and i finally found one! 🙂
I want to never take it off but my Fiance says he thinks strapless is nice for a dress (which is funny bc he is very modest and loves that i dress modestly). so i am kind of torn. to me i think it is silly to wear a revealing strapless WHITE dress. kind of any oxymoron when you think of what wearing a white dress means. haha. but i think so many ppl look great in sleevless dresses (especially pics i have seen on weddingbee) and i say go for it but i just dont think sleevless is me……
I would really like to see pics of dresses with sleeves. especially yours twoangels…if you dont mind to share 🙂
Here is mine:
Post # 42
OK, I am also of the camp that modest and strapless CAN co-exist! I’m also of the belief that straps and un-Modest can co-exist.
I originally did not want a strapless dress. I tired on over about 60 dresses…. some with and some without. The ones with just… eh… didn’t do it. The One I finally fell in love with IS strapless but not one once of cleavage hangs out. In fact, I was planning on a bolero and one just won’t work with the dress I chose, but with my veil I actually feel more modest in the dress than I did in any other… including straps or with a bolero covering my shoulders.
Personally, I think that thinking it’s immodest because a headshot will make you look naked sounds juvenile. No one is going to see your shoulder (including men) and be turned on sexually by you (and if they are well, that’s just a heck of a weird fetish…. And a tiny, .5 centimeter strap won’t cover much to stop that either.) Now, a low back and v-neck might turn some people on… I’d personally rather show my shoulder.
Now, if it’s because you don’t want to be pulling it up all night, I think that’s a perfectly valid reason 🙂
Strapless gowns are not a fad. They may be more available, but they are not a fad.
ps, I hate strapless bras too, I won’t be wearing ANY bra with my gown and you can’t tell that I’m not. I’m also a VERY modest person… but it’s more about the way you cary yourself and where you are bringing attention too.
Post # 43
When I was trying on dresses, I found that the dresses with straps were not really made for people who are larger on top. I popped out of those dresses in the most un-modest way. My bridal consultant told me to try a strapless dress, since they have some that hit higher and cover up all the goodies, and she was right.
Post # 44
Not everyone can pull off the strapless look. Here is the dress I wore.
Post # 45
So I really liked my dress, which was strapless, but going into it I did not want a strapless. But I don’t like the way spaghetti straps look on me either, so even going to a bunch of bridal stores there wasn’t many options . . . so I ended up going strapless.
That being said I had never really considered it too sexy, there was no cleavage or anything, I mean I’m covered in white fabric from above my chest to my toes with a cathedral length veil.
So when my Father-In-Law suggested I might make the priest blush with a strapless gown I couldn’t help but start laughing and ask if my shoulders were that sexy they had to be hidden to prevent men from swooning. I donno, really is bearing shoulders immodest? I don’t see how that’s any more immodest then wearing capris.