(Closed) The straw that broke the camels back

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Would you ladies be mad if your MOH did this??
    Yes, absolutely! : (114 votes)
    41 %
    No, definitely not! : (162 votes)
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  • Post # 3
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    At this point, I’d buy her a little bolero jacket and ask her to please wear it for the ceremony and any pictures. If she feels awkward being the only one wearing it, get them for the other bridesmaids. Don’t ruin your friendship over it and have such a negative experience so close to your wedding.

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Based on her response and timing…..yeah I’d probably give her the boot. I haven’t read your other posts but it just kinda sounds like she’s doing it as a ‘revenge’

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I don’t know anything about tattoos but won’t it have to be bandaged up to heal?  I’m picturing her with this giant ugly bandage and in every photo with it sticking out. Could she put makeup on it? Would she even do that for you?

    Her timing is really selfish and her response to you is just mean. Its sounds like insecurity, maybe jealously? Weddings bring out the crazy side in some people!

    Only you can decide if the stress of keeping her vs asking her to step down is worth it to you.

    Post # 7
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Its her body and she had every right to do what she wants with it. She shouldn’t have to put her plans on hold for your wedding.

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    * If you’re worried about pictures but dont want to burn the bridges, make her stand a certain way so you don’t see it in the pictures and let your photographer know that’s supposed to happen. I was worried about my tattoo showing in a friends (other girls had shoulder tattoos, as well) but we/the photographer never took pictures from behind so it all worked out.

    Post # 10
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    This reminds me of another thread on here somewhere about a bride thinking about picking her wedding date based on whether or not she’ll be able to get the tattoo work she wants done in time. So, even though BM’s tattoo is an annoyance to you, to her, it’s going to be on her for the rest of her life so perhaps she wanted to make sure it was done before your wedding precisely because there will be a lot of pictures taken. I have a lot of back art, and it’s very weird and disconcerting for me to see pictures of my back before the tattoos were there. So I really don’t think she was coming from a bad place in getting the tattoo done right before the wedding — she probably just wants to look her best, and thinks the tattoo is a part of that.

    That said, it is unfortunate that you disagree, and so I agree with PP that a bolero or wrap would help. I wouldn’t fire her over this, especially so soon before the wedding. The friendship will never recover, and you’d just be begging people to start quietly whispering the b-z-word …

    It will all be fine! Don’t worry!

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Someone getting a tatto on THEIR body is selfish? Color me confused. If you are willing to end a friendship over a tattoo then clearly this person is not very important to you.

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Thats a Peacock feather?? Sealed.. Jokes on her!

    Sorry to be blunt, but waht a bitch for being snarky and not even telling you about the tattoo. I would do like PP said and make her wear a bolero… UUGGHHH im annoyed and angry for you!!!

    Post # 14
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    While I don’t think it is the most well done tattoo ever, I wouldn’t kick her out. I would be devastated if someone kicked me out of a bridal party because of my tattoo.

    I would ask her to wear a bolero or a shaw, if you are having your ceremony in a church you can say that the priest would be offended. Then alert your wedding photographer about said tattoo and she will do what she can, to position Maid/Matron of Honor so they don’t show in your pictures. 

    Post # 16
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    While it is HER body and she can do with it whatever she wants … she got a huge tat that’s going to be front and center in all the wedding pics … i mean the WEEK before the wedding?  that’s just  being a b**ch.  I’d say cut her or get her a bolero.  It’s a fugly tat on top of it all… ick

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