(Closed) The straw that broke the camels back

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Would you ladies be mad if your MOH did this??

    Yes, absolutely!

    No, definitely not!

  • Post # 107
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    You’ll hardly notice the tattoo in pics. But DAMN, that is one ugly tattoo!! 🙁

    Post # 108
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I haven’t read your previous threads, so my opinion is based solely on this situation. Chill out!

    it’s her body and her life, why should she have to wait until after your wedding to get a tattoo she wants? That’s an unreasonable expectation! Sure she could have waited a week, but maybe she wanted it done by a specific artist who had an opening now, but wouldn’t again for months.

    The best tattoo artists typically are very hard to get into. 

    Post # 109
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

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    @MrsPeachMartini:  A tattoo should hel in a week, all of mine healed in 3 days. I realized it depends on where it is on the body, also about what ointment is used to help the healing.

     

    Post # 110
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    Why the hell are you even stessing about this? She does not care….why should you? End of story. I have no bridal party……no need…I think they are outdated anyways. It may not be her wedding but if she was truly your best friend she would care what you think and how you feel…..

    Post # 111
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I would just stick her in the back or have someone standing to the side so that her arm is covered by their body in all the pics lol!

    Id be annoyed but dont let it ruin your day…. there is always photoshop as well!

    Post # 112
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 1999

    Body positioning in pictures would have solved a whole lot of problems in this case.

    Instead it turned into an ugly drama mess. I wouldn’t say addressing this after it was already done was the most mature thing on the OP’s part. And who cares if you think the tatoo is ugly, it is her body and she obviously likes it- so that is really a null point.

    Anywho, I guess whats done is done and at least you both know where you stand with each other.

    Post # 113
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I’m pretty pro tattoos, and pro having them displayed in weddings if you choose BMs who have them. Even when it’s a feather that looks more like a dying plant. But her response to you, the “nope” combined with how unhelpful you already said she has been makes me think she really did get this right before the wedding just out of spite. If you believe this is the case I would ask her to step down. If she really went this far to hurt you then it will be hard to gauge how she is going to act on your wedding day.

    Post # 114
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    It seems to me like you and your friend are heading in different directions. I mean, her life is still a bachelorette’s life, and you’re almost a married woman. She’s just not being a supportive Maid/Matron of Honor… or a good friend. I’m not having any Maid/Matron of Honor, it’s perfectly fine…

    Post # 115
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    that is the worst peacock tattoo i have ever seen.  definitely shitty of her to do it before the wedding and i would have been even more pissed at her flippant response.

    Post # 116
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I honestly don’t really see what the issue is. If my best friend got a tatoo before my wedding, I wouldn’t care. She is my best friend and I love her, regardless of what tatoos she has. She is your Maid/Matron of Honor because she is supposed to stand next to you and be there for you on your big day.

    That being said, I can see that you two have other issues that need to be resolved. If you were really good friends, I most definitely would not have this conversation via text. Both of you deserve to talk about it face to face.

    Post # 117
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Make her get makeup over it.  If she can’t, I suggest the bolero.  If she refuses, kick her out. 

    Post # 118
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    Worker bee

    I’ve never had a tattoo look nasty during the healing process. As long as it’s kept moisturized it’ll look fine. I don’t know the story between you two, but just based on the fact she got a tattoo, I wouldn’t kick her out.

    Post # 119
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    Worker bee

    I would also add that some tattoo artists are very hard to book appointmets with, and you can’t be picky about what date you get. Based on the quality of that tattoo though, I don’t think that was the situation ;o)

    Post # 120
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

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    @AmyFarrahFowler: +1  that is ridiculous!! just because you ask someone to be in your bridal party doesnt mean you own them

    Post # 121
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

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    @Pokemon:  No, it doesn’t.  But it’s not like she did  it 6 months before the wedding.  She did it 1 week before the wedding.  Isn’t that kind of ridiculous that she couldn’t wait a week or shoot the bride a text – hey, I don’t know how you feel about tattoos, but I’m planning on getting one, are you going to mind?

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