Post # 1
Throughout this entire engagement, I’ve been a pretty cool cucumber. Everyone’s been amazed at how calm I have been, considering I’m in grad school, job searching, having phone interviews, planning a move, and planning this entire wedding by myself. My sister said most people would probably be in a dark corner, rocking back and forth
Well, as I looked at all the favors strewn across the floor, tediously tying gift tags to organza bags, after finding out the reception is costing $3000 more than originally planned because of all the extra guests my mom wanted to invite, and realizing that I have to meet six vendors next week in different places (again, by myself), and no one is helping me with anything, I just lost it. I cried for about an hour yesterday, while finishing up the favor tags and writing the placecards.
I don’t really blame anyone for lack of help. My fiance, BMs, and most family all live out-of-state, and my parents didn’t have a wedding, so they don’t really know what’s involved. So it’s no one’s fault. I just feel really sad and lonely about doing all these things alone, and the added stress of having so much other stuff on my plate at the same time is overwhelming.
Anyway, thanks for reading this novel, I feel a lot better writing this out, and am much calmer than I was yesterday. Still a little teary, but that may be my hormones. Just about one more week until I can relax (a little).
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC
chin up 🙂
im planning by myself too from spain for SC … its stressfull
see if you can pass of some of the easy jobs to your fiance. Mines been a star and relieved a lot of stress but be careful, after planning for so long alone you may be a bit stuck in your ways with some things so giving him anything which requires decisions or opinions to be made may cause arguments
Post # 4
@everyheart: Aww..HUGS to you! I have cried in that dark corner already lol! You’ll pull through! Do you have much left to do? I am in the same spot as you no one around to help, I’m a single mom, two jobs etc…I had a breakdown and a talk with FI, I asked him to help on a few projects and Now I’m excited !! maybe ask your FI to assist you in packaging things up or tell him to give you a massage!! next weekend you’ll forget all about this..:) Cheer up
Post # 5
@leecy87: Thanks 🙂 He’s bought the wedding rings and chosen some songs, but there’s really not much else for him to do, since he’s away. I’ll put the favors away and have him help me with them when he gets here!
@Birdi: Aww, thanks! I needed that hug 🙂 It sounds like you have a lot going on, too! I could definitely use a massage and ask him to help me with getting things together the day before. I can’t wait until the day comes, but I also have a lot to do before then!
Post # 6
Aww 🙁 Sorry you’re doing things mostly on your own! I have a feeling I’ll be facing some of this stres soon, since FI works shift work. Just breathe and take it a day at a time. Hopefully your FI will be home soon to help out! Maybe ask your coworkers if they would help? If you’re close to any of them.
Post # 7
@everyheart: Awww I’m sorry! I’d give ya a big hug if I could (hey, I’m in FL too! lol). I’m having to do everything by myself for the most part too. My family and side of the bridal party live in other parts of the state, FI always plays the ‘I’m working’ card if I ask for help, so I understand how you feel. I’m here if you wanna talk! 🙂
Post # 8
I’m sorry hun!
I hope everything gets better – it is nice to vent sometimes, right?
SO… when was the last time you did something nice and NWR for yourself?
I think if it’s getting to you, you should give yourself an adventure – schedule it if you need to!
Spa afternoon? Buy yourself some music and dance around? Jumped on the bed like a little kid? Rock climbing? Got an iced coffe at that cool new place in town?
I mean, anything that can just make you feel like you’re having some good old selfish fun for a bit – meaning some fun just for yourself.
The last time I did that, I got food at a Sonic and ate it in a Taco Bell parking lot down the street. It was something stupid (I mean, really stupid) and simple, but for some reason it had me cracking up the rest of the evening!
And… you’re almost there!
Yay! So exciting!
Things will get better – and it sounds like you’ve been doing such a wonderful job with all the planning, you’re terrific!!
Post # 9
Aww I feel you!
I think stress has been getting to me too. Our planning as been going smoothly for the past year and I’m actually shocked that it is considering it’s a destination wedding (and not even an intimate one) plus we had to plan for our legal wedding last month and we’re moving into a new house this month, just before the wedding. Although things have been smooth, I think the hiccups are catching up at the last minute and I’ve been on edge about it. Been having dreams about wedding disasters. Yikes!
All I could say is take a breath girl. Talk to your FI or someone close to you. Go have dinner in a favorite place. I know it must be really crunch time for your but I think it helps to let it out and clear your head and just not worry about everything for a few hours at least so it won’t feel to overwhelming.
Post # 10
@everyheart: Ohh It’ll get better!;) Sometimes you just need to let it all out and cry like a baby, it helps!I am glad you are feeling better. I was also planning my wedding completely by myself and I understand how exhausting and frustrating it could get. But keep your head up, you can do it!
Post # 11
If this was facebook, I would “like” all these posts! You’re all such sweet bees 🙂
Yesterday, I took a day off from wedding planning and treated myself to a large hot fudge sundae! And I took a nap today – preparing for the crazy week ahead, but at least FI will be here in 3 days!
Post # 12
Oh no sweetie! 🙁 When we were planning our wedding, I was kind of like you – I was super cool about everything for a good portion of our wedding planning, but in the final couple of months, I just lost it. We were planning our wedding, buying a house, and everything was changing! DH was in charge of our house purchase, I was in charge of all things wedding. It was a lot! So all I guess I’m trying to say is, you’re not alone! We all feel it from time to time. And when that happens? We are all here for you! 🙂
Post # 13
I completely feel you, I had the exact break down because of the exact problems last month. I think my MOH and bridesmaid got the hint and finally started helping with the planning. Don’t worry, it get’s better. Just don’t lose focus!
Post # 14
We must be having the same day (minus the wedding favors). I’ve been job searching and trying to figure out a plan for our wedding, which is July 26th. We don’t have any sort of party planned as of right now and it’s stressing me out. I’m ready to drop out of the whole process.
Then I found out I’m not getting a second interview from the interview I had last Friday and I lost it. Crying my eyes out for an hour.
Sometimes it’s best to just let yourself cry!!
Post # 15
Oh honey I was BAWLING a couple days ago. It was also spurred by favors/escort cards…so obviously those things are the devil.
I can’t imagine pulling everything off with all the stress you’ve listed. Today I’m supposed to be studying for finals (classes I need for my grad program), the wedding is in less than 3 weeks and I just started my period. I have done pretty much nothing but eat chocolate cake today 😉 And that’s with my FI and mom helping! Cut yourself more slack!
If we encurred another $3000 in costs right now I would just be driving out of town and not coming back. Hang in there, you’ve been so strong and you’re so close!!
Post # 16
I’m pretty sure we all go through a moment like this. I had a cry-sesh last week for about an hour while my fiance just listened to me vent, haha. Now I’m over it and moved on. But sometimes it’s good to get it out every now and then!!