(Closed) The stress of a BEE!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
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  • Post # 3
    1042 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    The specific family drama is a bit crazy. I know my family would be shaken by an ‘outing’ like that, but as far as the wedding stuff goes, I think it’s pretty normal.


    I had hired a couple of “friendors” too, and they both bailed on me too. My flowers were a bit of a disaster, it poured rain all day, despite being gorgeous the day before and after the wedding day, and the icing fell off my cake on the way to the venue, amongst other mishaps.

    All in all, we ended up married at the end, had an awesome party with friends and family and I’d consider the whole day a success. It’s these type of things that make the best stories after!


    Hope things turn around for you from here and it’s smoother sailing!

    Post # 4
    9548 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    GACK!!! That’s a lot of stuff! I think the family/vendor stuff isn’t too unusual but it’s certainly no fun. And it’s often a rough period when someone in the family comes out – undoubtably more so to come out as gay and a stripper! It’s unfortunate that this happened now when tensions are high but hopefully your dad and brother will have some time to cool down a little bit before the wedding. Geesh. No great advice except take deep breaths! Do what you can and don’t stress about the rest.

    Post # 6
    1606 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @charliebear1613:  Feel like you are forgetting things? Google checklists and scour them for something silly you could have missed.

    Family Drama? let it go – it’s not ‘easy’ but you are about to married – this will be the happiest day – make sure it is by telling your fam to keep all drama on the DL for the day of.

    No groom for rehearsal? His job is to show up and -stand-there- you will be fine without him. Make sure the pastor and his best man know the queues – after that let it go.


    Breathe – you’re almost there!



    Post # 7
    9916 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    What is the new job that your fiance has that they will not allow him a Friday evening off?  He needs to tell them that he HAS to have that evening off.  If they refuse, he needs to look for a new job.

    Post # 8
    11747 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Honestly, if that’s all you got things are going pretty well! I’ve got stories for days.  Don’t worry about the ring either – my wedding is next weekend, and we just ordered FI’s last week and it’s not due to come in until a few days before! Take a deep breath and relax now because things will only be getting crazier in the next few weeks! 🙂

    Post # 9
    10366 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    It sounds like you are swallowing your feelings and not being honest with your family about how this is all making you feel. That isn’t healthy! You deserve to be heard, as well!

    Honestly, i’d just try to focus on your Fiance and the life you want with him. That slice of happiness is the only thing you have any control over here. I would try my best to let the rest go, and remember that it’s just one day, and you have a lifetime to look forward to.

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