Post # 1
Hi Bees, I am really in a bind. I’ve been engaged almost 6 months and my wedding is in October. Recently, there have been extreme changes at work to my workload…I’m talking doing the work of three people and always having to ask for OT. It’s killing my work-life balance. Sometimes I feel like I am forgetting what a happy time of my life this should be because I am constantly overwhelmed, stressed, and feeling completely and totally burnt out. I am also constantly yelled at and blamed by the clients I work with, which while I know never to take it personally, it does do a number on your mental health after a while. The job search has been no easy feat either.. it’s either radio silence or an automated rejection. came home on Friday and just collapsed in bed instead of going to my workout class as usual. Wedding planning doesn’t get me as excited and happy as it used to- it almost feels like a chore. Can anyone relate? If so, what have you done to manage the stress of life, wedding planning, work, and job hunting?
Post # 2
- Wedding: October 2019 - Mountains
Hi Watermelon! I’m totally in the same boat. I’ve worked in stressful jobs most of my life post-college/grad school. My wedding is in August- I can’t update it myself due to a weddingbee glitch. I too am hoping to jump to another company sooner than later and my wedding is 7 months away. In terms of job hunting, just try to target your search as much as possible and to enlist help from your contacts so that you can bypass HR.
In terms of wedding planning, how bad is it? Are we talking a 200 person wedding? Is budget an issue? Do you have a wedding planner? Do you have people in your family/wedding party that you trust to help you? If your work is anything like mine you will see that people ‘in general’ are poor at delegating work and even more so delegating work to the right people with tasks they can truly handle.
You still have a long time before your wedding. I’ve only been engaged for about 3 months and the big day is 7 months away. I’ve always worked in finance/consulting so I have spreadsheets galore and am not overwhelmed. In fact, everything is booked/under contract/STDC were sent already. However, my wedding will be less than 40 people. I have no wedding party so its all me, but having no wedding party has relieved some stress. My #1 goal for wedding planning was to minimize stress. I don’t think my friends that I chose not to invite will be upset.
So where do you go from here? Have you finalized your guest list? Can limiting it help with the stress? Is your MOH/BMs people you trust to research some stuff for you? What about your fiance? Do you have your venue set? Tackling the big stuff (venue/caterer/guest count) will help a lot- so that later on you can focus on the fun details.
Post # 3
I’m sorry you’re going through this 🙁 Have you put deposits down already? Just wondering because maybe you could postpone the wedding for a bit? I know that’s not a great option but I don’t have much advice, just empathy for your situation. Your job sounds miserable and it’s so hard to find a new one when you are already overworked and exhausted.
Can you reach out to friends and family to help you find opportunities or connections? A little bit of support can go a long way and the easiest way to get an in is through knowing someone.
There are also career services online where you can hire people to revise your resume and/or coach you and help your resume stand out with employers. If you have little time and some extra funds this could help you a bit.
Can you take some time off work? When I’m burned out I find taking time off really helps. And if you can, try to find some time for yourself to unwind and de-stress. Sorry I’m not much help.
Post # 4
neverbeenstungbee : so many things here. I’m not allowed to take time off work until summer (it’s an agency wide policy. Ugh!). The wedding is mostly planned and all deposits made. I guess I’m just not as excited because I’m so unhappy at work. Had a phone interview last week and supposedly would hear back today, again nothing. Ugh! I thought I rocked it too, which is disappointing.
Post # 5
You could still hear back though! I hope you get some good news regarding your phone interview. Your wedding is still a ways off so you could still have a new job by then and some time to get excited for your big day!