Post # 1
I’ve recently moved out of my moms apartment because of my moms codependent behavior, she has been controlling me and my life since birth and the biggest issue I face is dealing with negative emotions ( sadness, anger, frustration) and everytime I experience these feeling I feel deep shame, when I feel like this it makes me feel worse like I’m suppose to act better and act happy like my mom forced me. I feel like I have no safe outlets when these emotions come about and feel ashamed to mention it to anyone. My mom hated when I mentioned my issues with anyone but her and it feels like an inconvienience to talk about it like it doesn’t matter. I’m at a lost of what to do with these emotions.
Post # 2
Therapy. Feeling negative emotions such as sadness, anger, and frustation is completly normal and healthy. You shouldn’t feel shame for feeling them. But there’s no magical words anyone here can say that will flip a switch and make you no longer feel shame about them. And you aren’t going to be able to make them go away forever, they are a part of life. We all feel them at one point or another. A therapist (one you feel comfortable with) can be that safe outlet for those emotions and help you learn to how process them and not feel ashamed of them.
I also find writing to be an incredible outlet for emotions. If you don’t feel comfortable sharing these emotions with anyone you can try journaling to give yourself an outlet and way of processing them.