Post # 1
There are some brides (and grooms) who get super carried away with the notion of MY DAY and are very demanding of their friends and family, and feel entitled to being the be all and end all of all things wedding. My Bridesmaid or Best Man sent me a thank-you-for-not-being-crazy email along with a link to a Tyra episode that a link to about a bride who insisted her sister get weight loss surgery and lose 100lbs, that her 13 BMs get $1,000 weaves and all look identical for her wedding. One of my friends was in someone else’s wedding where the bride called all her BMs and told them they weren’t allowed to go tanning, get pregnant or have short hair at her wedding.
I also think the term gets used too easily, I asked for a mockup of a bouquet and it wasn’t what I wanted or asked for or requested, when I told the florist it wasn’t what I wanted and asked that she re-do it, she rolled her eyes as though I was being needlessly difficult. If it were another situation and I was paying for a service and I, as the customer, were unhappy, wouldn’t it be expected that the vendor take the opportunity to fix it? For example, when I organized conferences or meeting through work vendors were always happy to fix something I wasn’t happy with without acting like I was being an unreasonable child.
Post # 3
Agree the term is used sometimes in the wrong way. I feel like just because I simply didn’t like something doesn’t mean I am a bridezilla. I always feel bad if I ask to change something just simply because I don’t want to be seen as a bridezilla. I can’t imagin’ asking my Bridesmaid or Best Man to put their lifes on hold just for my day.
Post # 4
Those girls you described sound crazy! One of my BMs actually referred to me as a "Bridezilla" and not affectionately. I’m not getting married until Oct. 2010 but I have already picked out my Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. She didn’t want to order her dress until much much later, but it takes about 5 months for them to come in. It hurt my feelings! I agree — I think the term gets thrown around pretty loosely nowadays.
Post # 5
I completely agree! The phrase is so common now that I feel is gets used all the time, which isn’t fair. I definitely don’t consider myself a bridezilla. I’m taking the punches as they roll and trying to stay calm about everything because I know, in the end, it’s not about the centerpieces or the cake, it’s about us getting married.
But, with that said, I am putting a lot of money into some things, so I want them done right (at the very least, within some spectrum of what my original idea was). If I speak up, I fear people will start calling me bridezilla, which isn’t entirely appropriate!
I think it has a lot to do with gender as well. I hate saying it because I’m not one to generalize things like this, but I’m pretty sure if a groom asked that flowers be changed, bridezilla, or groomzilla, wouldn’t be applied.
Post # 6
It really irritates me when a bride is called bridezilla by her vendors just because she wants things how she wants it. Not to be rude, but we’re paying for your services! If we want things a certain way, how about you go ahead and do that for us? There’s a HUGE difference between knowing what you want and not being afraid to ask for it and being a bridezilla. Bridezillas aren’t pleased by anything they see and are generally miserable people!