(Closed) The term "pet parent"…

posted 6 years ago in Pets
Post # 77
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I don’t feel like my cat’s parent at all. I feel like me and Darling Husband are his overgrown kittens 🙂

Post # 78
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

See, I don’t think it is contradictory to treat your pet as the much loved member of the family that they are even if you prefer not to call them a “furbaby” or call yourself their Mummy. 

I love my dog. We’ve had eight and a half happy years together and he’s my loving, loyal, doggie companion. 

Post # 79
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I refer to myself as “mama” and my dog knows me by that.  I call her my furbaby.  But when we have kids, she will not be their “big sister”.  She will just be the family pet, although I imagine I will still be her “mama” seeing as she knows who that is.

Post # 80
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I find it really awkward when people refer to themselves as “mummy” or “daddy” when it comes to their pets. We have 3 guinea pigs and refer to them as “the girls”…we consider them part of the family but we never refer to ourselves as “mummy” and “daddy”…too weird!

Post # 81
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Ha no I hate the term “furbabies” soooo much and I find it really awkward when people refer to me as mom to my pets. I love our pets very much but no, I would not die for any of them. That seems very odd to me that someone would actually die to save their pet. 

I feel like this is a somewhat new-ish term. It’s all over the horse world now too. About ten years ago at my boarding barn someone might say “Oh Blacky is owned by Sarah”, now they say “Sarah is Blacky’s mom”. Ugh. 

Post # 82
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Honey Beekeeper

I dislike and have to admit, find annoying,  the use of expressions like “pet parent” and “furbaby.”  Like those talking baby commercials, they just give me the creeps.  But yes, we do say, go to Mom, Mommy, Dad, Daddy.  I’m sure there are people who find that kind of thing just as annoying.  I wouldn’t say it in public, though.

Post # 83
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

@PositiveThinking:  YES!  I am definately a mummy because I have 2 fur babies, like others I feel that I chose them, I adopted them and they are my babies.  I completely understand that they are not my BABIES and they are not human, and I do treat them differently than I would a baby because they think as dogs so understand pack mentality, and need to know I do what I want, and they too do what I want them to.  But I love them and would do anything to protect them and make them happy.

Post # 84
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Sugar bee

@ZoeyGirl:  Funny (to me) that you look at it that way. I see those distinctions as not actually having any difference to what humans do with their human children. Most “pet parents” you will talk to do the same things (crating, not allowing the dog/cat set the rules), just like they would to their human child. It is called setting boundaries for acceptable living conditions for all involved. 

I would argue those people who “spoil” their pets by not enforcing any rules would do the same with their animals in most instances and it has nothing to do with what species they “kids” are. 

I don’t mean to sound really confrontational, but I don’t see treating your pet as an equal member of the family by respecting their rights and needs as treating them as humans. Plus, the mother(father)/child relationship is a good, convenient way to describe the dependent relationship of pets to their owners. 

But to wrap it up, I don’t think you’ll find many people who truly believe they are the biological parent to their pet, that would just be….weird.

Post # 85
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@PositiveThinking:  I don’t understand why this is so bothersome to some people… Does it personally affect you what someone else defines their relationship with their animal as? Does it have ANY impact on your life? I mean, I just don’t get why something so little would bother someone so much…

I have a dog and two cats, I call them my fur children, I do not actually think they are human children. They are a part of my family and I take care of them, I feed them, I brush them, bathe the dog, I take care of them when they don’t feel good, I bring them to the vet for their regular care or god forbid an emergency… I adopted them so yes, I am responsible for them and consider that a “parental” role. I do not think I am the parent of three human children (I have zero children), but I have 3 animals that I love and take care of so therefore I am their pet parent and I call them my fur babies (typically just “babies”, they know they have fur… the animals also do not think they are humans either).

My husband and I refer to ourselves/eachother as mom & dad when we talk to the animals.  I don’t see the big deal. It’s not like we go around telling any stranger we meet about our “children” or refer to them as our “kids” when talking about them to other people. That’s why the term “pet” and “fur” are there before the other words, to distinguish that they are animals, not children. I don’t see the problem.

As for the “dying” for you animal debate. I would definitely try to keep my pet from being injured or killed, if that meant putting me in harms way in the process so be it, but I would at least try… But I would do the same thing for a stranger (human, though if I could help a stray animal without dying I would), so… I guess that just speaks to my character.

 

Post # 86
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Bee Keeper

I personally do not use the term but I find it odd that people think a strong sense of connection to an animal is a new or weird thing.  I’m certain most logical people know that a puppy and a human baby aren’t really the same thing,  right?  If a person feels so strongly towards their animal that they feel like a parent to it isn’t really THAT earth shattering.  I find people who use the terms furbaby or furmom aren’t parents and that’s their word of choice to show their devotion/loyalty or solidarity to their family unit.  They want you to know it’s not JUST a dog or cat,  it is their ” baby”

Post # 87
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@BotticelliLove:  + 100 We have a 7 y/o schnauzer and a 13 month old Dear Daughter and they both know who “mommy and daddy” are 😉

Post # 88
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

My pets are captive bred reptiles so they have literally never seen their biological mommies. The eggs go straight into an incubator after being laid. I refer to them as my babies.

Post # 89
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I hate these threads. It seems like they’re created solely for another angle of “look why I’m better than you”. 

IMO, stfu. I don’t care what came out of your V and is so much more work than a child. My baby Theo pup will be my baby until I die! 

I work at a preschool and see DAILY how much annoyance parents get from their kid. Some of them look sad they have to pick them up! I can’t tell you how many times they’ll tell us younger women, “don’t have children!”. You know what? My dog doesn’t annoy me like this. I 100% love him to pieces all the time. 

Post # 90
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Ugh! I hate this trend/term soooo much! 

I love my cat to bits, and even birthed her and her siblings, but I am not her mommy. Fiance is not her daddy. We don’t use those terms (when we call the cat, we just say “Come here bear!” We don’t have some odd need to call ourselves Mommy/Daddy). Maybe if we had a human child, then using those terms wouldn’t be so weird, but I’m not a mommy (yet) so I think it would be very strange to call myself one.

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