(Closed) The terrible things people do…

• Mrs.babycat
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: July 2013

@Doodle411:  It is so sad how poorly children are in our judicial system.  I was sexually abused by a family member when I was child and as soon as my mom found out she reported it to the police.  We got dragged through a long court process and you know what that m****r f****r got?  HOUSE ARREST AND PAROLE.  He rips my whole life apart and that is what he gets. 

• MrsPaulsBabyBallerina
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: July 2012

@Doodle411:  I have a friend who is a nurse at our children’s hospital.  She says the same things from time to time.

My husband is law enforcement and works in the worst part of the city.  He sees the worst of the worst.  It gets to him as well but he says he constantly has to remind himself that he can’t help everyone but the ones he does help makes it all worth it.

I work in special Ed and I’ve seen more and more kids who are coming through with so much baggage that it’s unreal.  It does get to me.  I just try to love on them the best I can so they know that not every adult in their life is that way.  It’s not much, but the best I can do.  

• FLBlonde93
• 8 years ago

@solidarity:  I agree- faith is needed.  I believe that while it can be hard at times, if God calls one to work in medicine, He will carry you through those heartbreaking times.

• icetea
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: June 2013

I have been touched by it my whole life.  I grew up in foster care as a result of abuse and neglect.

Now I’m a social worker for homeless youth…and there’s almost always a history of abuse and neglect.

The devastating situation you described sounds horrible.  I consider myself pretty thick skinned but I couldn’t take working in a hospital.

For me, the work I do is inspiring.  Often the situations these young people come from could give you nightmares but the resiliency and hope they have restores my somewhat jaded view of humanity.

We all suffer when our children suffer.

• akirasan
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: August 2015

Ugh, sometimes I feel parents need to be licensed to have kids. The stories I hear and the things I see just walking down the street sometimes makes me want to push some parents into oncoming traffic. Harsh, I know, but better that than put an innocent child in harm’s way.

• Sapphire-Dreamer
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

I live in the city and what really grinds my gears is when I see Mothers (usually of Eastern European decent) begging on the train with their children there. Often holding a child that looks sickly. I get very visibally upset for the following reasons

• that woman is probably getting a kind of welfare check for that child yet is not using the resourses available for childcare, or education. That kid could be in some sort of pre-k/day-care for free.
• They don’t work, which pisses me off. I work 2 jobs so you can beg on the street?
• They don’t speak English most of the time so they just know how to beg for money
• Those poor kids are being taught that people will just give you money (tax free!) if you sit there all day.

Say what you want about my feelings but they are how I feel . Whenever I try to speak to one of those women never gets anywhere.

Try calling ACS but if they are somewhere in the transit system (14th & 6th Ave for instance) the women are gone by the time the agents get there. 

• starz88962
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: October 2013

I was a victim of emotional and physical abuse when I was a child. I’m not going to go into any details, I try my hardest to forget about it, but it was awful. Absolutely awful and no child should ever have to deal with any kind of pain, especially physical pain (unless its a scraped knee from falling down while playing kickball or something, lol). 

Your story is terrible. It makes me realize that I guess I should count myself as lucky that I’m alive and wasn’t abused as extensively as that little boy brought to your hospital. In fact, I am lucky that I was never hurt so badly that I needed to even go to the hospital. 

The question I often wonder is what can we do about this abuse? And the sad answer is there’s not much we can do to prevent it from happening! If you looked at my abuser, you would NEVER know they were “like that”. It’s such a shame that there is not much to be done, but I know that, even though I don’t have kids, I will NEVER, EVER, EVER put my child(ren) through abuse like that!

• vorpalette
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: August 2013

@housebee:  Seriously.