- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
I don’t have many super close girl friends. But I have two that I share a deep connection with.
Girl A: Was my best friend for the past couple of years. Was responsible for getting my fiance and I to date. Told her everything. Disconnected because of distance and being busy. She got jealous of my new friends (including Girl B), talked about everything to work things out, and recently recconnected. I feel deeply connected knowing that we’re always going to be here for each other, but we have grown so far apart that we don’t have much in common these days.
Girl B: Met her less than a year ago but instantly connected. I literally knew as soon as I met her that I wanted her in my bridal party (this was before I was engaged!). I can’t explain. She’s there for me, we have a lot in common, she was there for my proposal. She’s offered me so much guidance, wisdom, and advice. She’s incredibly loving and caring toward me. We always have such a good time together and share many common interests.
So, I had this brilliant idea to go bridal dress shopping with my mother and both of them. At this point, I hadn’t even asked them to be bridesmaids. As I got ready to change out of my last dress, I told them “I have something I really want to ask you guys, but I wanted to do it in a special way. But for right now, can I ask you to try on dresses?” And so they did. They tried on bridesmaids dresses. I later verbally asked them but never did anything special or official.
Later that day, I texted Girl A and told her that I was glad she came, and that I couldn’t imagine getting married without her right by my side. I also said that I couldn’t imagine my reception without her telling everyone the embarassing story of how she hooked my fiance and I up.
So, I figured me saying that was me telling her that I wanted her to be my maid of honor. In all honesty, it was super hard to choose between the two, but I figured I’d known Girl A longer so I’d choose her. I thought all was well until…
A couple of days ago, I overheard Girl B tell one of her friends that she’s my maid of honor. My mental reaction: What?! *freak out, freak out, freak out*.
After a few minutes of thinking, I realized how badly I want BOTH of them to be my maids of honor. I made an executive decision. That’s what I want.
Now, I don’t know how to tell them. I have no idea what’s going through their minds. Do they both think that they’re my ONLY maid of honor? Do they think that BOTH of them are maids of honor?
I still want to do something special for them. How do I even talk to them about this? I feel like they’ll get super upset finding out they’re both MOHs if they thought they were the only one. I’m so stuck. They only met once, when we went dress shopping. Because of distance, I can’t really get them together. Facebook message? What do I do to clear this up and OFFICIALLY ask them to be my MOHs? Should I ask each one individually to be my Co-Maid of Honor? I’m such a people pleaser and I don’t want to hurt either of their feelings..
(I think things through SO well, don’t I? -_-)