(Closed) The things that went wrong and how to get past blaming myself for them

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
709 posts
Busy bee

@LilDrAnya  Sorry to hear that not everything turned out as planned. 

But I am sure it was still a beautiful day. Don’t we tend to be most critical ourselves? 

Don’t beat yourself up over it. Focus on what went well. (Hugs)

Post # 5
147 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Maybe I have high expectations to the DOC, but isn’t it part of their job to make sure most your regrets are minimized/ doesnt happen? Shouldnt they keep things on time,  give the cake topper to the caterer, make sure all you decor is put out? Keep out strange intruders? Who was your DOC? I feel like this is why you hire them.

ETA- saw your wedding photos and regardless of the regrets, it looks beautiful! I love the Youngrens!

Post # 6
444 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Ughhhh that sucks! Just ew about the woman and her trackpants falling down. Can you try writing all the good things down on one piece of paper, and the bad things and another? Then burn the paper with the bad things written on it and keep the paper with the good things.

ETA that DOC needs a bad review. From you.

Post # 7
510 posts
Busy bee

While yes, that sucks, what is the point in dwelling on it? A bigger mistake than any that may have occurred that day will be wasting time thinking about bad things that can’t be changed. It’s utterly useless while you should enjoy being s newlywed, because THAT is something you can still affect. Just learn from every experience and move on.

Congratulations, by the way!

Post # 8
7528 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

With the exception of #14 that sounds like a normal wedding. Let it go. Especially the DOC “rushing” you because your food was overheating— that’s her job to tell you about stuff like that before the food is ruined! And honestly it doesn’t sound like the DOC did a bad job either. leave a bad review for the venue and move on with life!


Post # 9
724 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I know it’s rough to spend so much time, money, and effort and have things go not as planned. I really feel for you (especially about the hair…I will not be walking done that aisle until I’m happy with my hair and makeup and I don’t care how late I am lol) and that really sucks your pashmina got lost ๐Ÿ™ that’s funny that your husband went so apeshit about the cigars and scotch that he didn’t even open your note, such a guy thing to do hahaha. And the woman who mooned everyone, I think someday you will laugh and laugh at that!

Post # 11
3400 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@LilDrAnya  I’m sorry you have so many regrets ๐Ÿ™

If it makes you feel better, I saw your recap pictures before I saw this post & your wedding looked absolutely beautiful & magical! You looked amazing, your venue is beautiful (although that staff member you described is very inappropriate), your color scheme was fantastic, your food looked absolutely scrumptious, & the little details definitely brought it to a new level of elegance.

My wedding was a total clusterf*!k compared to yours, & if I sat down to write a regret post it would sound a lot more pathetic & horrible than yours, but honestly, at the end of the day your pictures convey how beautiful every element of your wedding was, & your guests had a good time. You’re also now married! ๐Ÿ™‚

I can’t tell you not to be upset about the mishaps (I sure have a lot of them myself!) but you can’t change them now, & I bet you anything your guests have no idea that things disappointed you. The pictures show them having the time of their lives!

Post # 13
79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@LilDrAnya  I’m so sorry to hear things went so wrong at your wedding! but dont worry! You’re not the only one! I had a lot of things went wrong at my wedding as well! But luckily, the photos (from guests) turn out ok. I think i should create a new topic similar like yours so you know what went wrong!

I know it’s very disappointed as we spent too much time to organise it but hey, we get to married the loves of our lives! Just look at him or think of him whenever those bad experience pop up in your head!

Conratulations by the way! ๐Ÿ™‚

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