Post # 1
This is my first post. I hope you guys can help, as I’m sure I am not the only one going through this situation. Ok here it goes……
Do you really feel something when you’ve found “the dress”?????? So far, I have not felt anything remotely close to what I think its that “feeling”. I have liked dresses and potentially see myself getting married in it. But…. there’s always the what “IF” is not really that nice, or doesnt complement my figure. Or is it too simple or too flashy? and most importanly is it me? I dont think is a fear of commitment, I want to find my dress and soon. I’m not too picky but I know what I want. There’s so many things involve in getting a wedding dress thats not just a “feeling”. There’s the budget and style. Those parts of your body you want to hide or show. Does that take away from having that big emotional moment of finding the right dress? Should you settled for the feeling of finding the dress within my budget that looks close enough to my “dream dress? Is that the feeling ?
Post # 3
ok so I think “the feeling” also depends on what kind of person you are. I am not the type to get overly excited about clothes…even the ever important wedding dress. My emotions are going to be reserved for the walk down the aisle. So when I got my dress I knew that it looked good on me and that it was beautiful but to me it’s still a material thing, it’s a dress, it’s just another piece of clothing. So no, I didn’t get “the feeling” but I’m not that kind of person
Post # 4
@Dallybride15: It really depends on you. Many brides here on the bee have admitted not to have reacted like the brides you say on SYTTD. In my personal experience, I cried twice with two similar dresses and I didn’t pick either one, lol! I cried with the first dress because it was the very first wedding dress I was trying on after being engaged for a short while. It was also the dress that I thought was going to be “the one” and although it was beautiful it wasn’t it. I cried because of all the emotions that hit me trying on that dress and sharing the moment with my mom only. It hit me that I was going to get married. I cried with the other dress (second dress appointment) because my mom and Future Mother-In-Law were in “awe” with it and Future Mother-In-Law got emotional (FI is an only child). The next dress that I tried on was the dress that everyone loved and so did I but wasn’t too sure about it. I didn’t purchase it then but a few weeks later I went alone to the bridal store and tried it that same dress on and I knew it was the one. I felt it…my eyes watered and felt happy inside because I knew it was the dress I was going to marry my FH in. Plus, he loves the dress…..he always told me he loved the dress before I even tried on the dress but he doesn’t know I picked his favorite 🙂
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2011 - Downtown 202
I didn’t get that feeling, but I wasn’t really looking for that feeling either. I just wanted a dress that made me feel pretty, but I didn’t expect that there was only “one” dress for me.
Post # 6
I did experience a certain feeling of “knowing” the dress I purchased was the right one. It just felt the best, and the most comfortable, of all the dresses I tried on. And the way each dress looks on your body is quite different, so it’s easy to tell the ones that won’t work much faster than the right one(s).
Post # 7
i didnt have a full-on-emotional-bright-lights-shinning-angels-singing moment when i put on my dress. but i definitely knew it was my dress. i came out of the dressing room and my mom and my sisters were silent, so no emotional gushing there either. but they knew it was my dress. almost a year after buying my dress, and with 6 months to go to the wedding i am still obsessed with my dress but haven’t shed a single tear about it lol.
so like PPs have said – it all depends on the person. and not all of us are like the girls on SYTTD…
Post # 8
When it comes to clothes, I’ve always known almost right off the bat whether I like something or not when I try it on. I don’t purchase anything unless I really love it. I definitely got a very intense feeling of “I KNOW this is the ONE” when I tried on my dress. I was not expecting to get my dress so soon (I found it at my very first appointment and I think it was the 4th dress I tried on!) It was not what I thought I wanted but I just knew it was it.
Post # 9
I felt like I was doing something wrong when all the girls around me were crying when they found their dress. However, it is JUST a dress and I couldn’t bring myself to get emotional over something so temporary. Don’t get me wrong; I LOVE my dress. I just wasn’t freaking out over it.
Post # 10
Thank you girls! I’m trying on dresses today and I will keep all your thoughts in mind ! 🙂 I think emotions or no emotions, whether you base your decision on feelings or anything else. When you find the right dress you just know.
Post # 11
Nope! But I went in to it knowing that I wouldn’t. I just dont get attached to clothing like some girls do. I dont care if I’m getting married in it. It’s just an expensive dress, nay costume. All I wanted from it was to match my style, be in my price range, and look good on me.
Post # 12
I did have that feeling actually. It was the first time I felt amazing and was overwhelmed with the dress and it’s beauty.
I have had a lot of ups and downs with my dress so I’m feeling a little regretful but the day of purchase I definitely felt secure in my decision.
Post # 13
Okay, I was exactly in your shoes! I am the most indecisive person on the planet and was constantly worrying about the dress, if it was right, if it had all the elements I was looking for, if my friends and family would like it etc. I am also not the super emotional type but as most of us only ever plan on getting married once I wanted to make sure I found my perfect dress. I did get a feeling, but I didn’t cry. I was just sure the moment I put it on that it was the dress for me. It met all the criteria and made me feel beautiful, I was super comfortable in the dress. Ultimately it was the dress that made me stop looking. When you put on a dress and no longer feel like you need to put on more, or continue shopping, then stop because that is your dress 🙂
Post # 14
I didn’t really get a feeling. The dress I bought was one of the first dresses I could see myself getting married in, was one that my mom and sister really liked, and that I couldn’t get out of my head, or couldn’t top with another dress. So I bought it!
Post # 15
I wrote this on another thread:
This Wednesday I went to another store, fessed up, and tried on a bunch of different dresses. They all looked nice and most made me feel like a bride, but I never had that “the one” feeling. I finally realized that many of them made me feel like I was playing a role. In the end, I put on the Geneva again… and I felt peaceful, beautiful and like myself. We found a different solution for upper arm coverage (adding off-the-shoulder sleeves in the same fabric as the dress) and decided on a simpler veil, and I was finally 100% sure.
So, if you’re not the cry-with-joy type, don’t worry. Sometimes the right dress just makes you peaceful and calm. Especially if you’re a high-strung, over-thinking type like me, haha!
Post # 16
I didn’t cry when I found my dress. I was excited because I looked good in it and could picture my whole look together but thats about it. I know there are nicer dresses out there but I just felt like this is good for me. Thats as much of a feeling I got.