- 8 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
Totally normal 🙂 don’t worry
Totally normal 🙂 don’t worry
It is because sometimes, when we are perfectly happy and content, we wonder WHY anyone soe wonderful would love little old us ???
Your pondering forever is actually… you trying to reason WHY he’d want to spend FOREVER TO THE END OF TIME… with you !!
Lol, I have been super secure in my relationship with Mr TTR for over 7 years… he too is everything I ever wished for
At a very very low point in my life, in the middle of my Divorce when I was virtually homeless… I remember I was crying my self to sleep one night, and asking God WHY I was going thru this living H#LL knowing that I had always been the good person in my past marriage… and yet I was still suffering so. The next morning, I pulled out my journal and wrote down a list with every little element I could think of that I wanted in a “perfect” man. Less than a year later, that man walked into my life… and I literally was able to tick off every box on my very very long list !!
Call it Fate, Karma, God… something / someone intervened and my life has been a Zillion times better since I met Mr TTR
Despite all that…
When I was standing in the Bathroom of our gorgeous Honeymoon Hotel Room on my Wedding Day, putting the finishing touches on my look… I was overcome by butterflies, my palms were sweaty… my tummy doing flip flops… etc.
I was having an anxiety attack. I was overcome with fear that maybe this was a big mistake…
(Lol a feeling I didn’t have on my first Wedding Day so many decades before… and yet that marriage WAS A HUGE MISTAKE)
Barely able to talk… my lips quivering…
I walked out of the Bathroom, to see Mr TTR who had dressed in the Bedroom area of our Suite greet me, and he looked amazing. And before I could say a word… he told me how gorgeous I looked and that he was honoured to make me his wife that afternoon.
And all my fears, anxiety and uncertainty was gone. And I knew I was doing the right thing. He handed me my bouquet and we were off.
Hope this helps,
PS… No regrets. I am uber happy. I think the anxiety was just a way of my mind, heart, body reaffirming for me that this was a SERIOUS commitment and not something to be taken lightly.
I was the one pushing the engagement thing. And then when he started talking realistically about it I got a little panicked. We’ve been together 3 years so I know this boy is a good fit for me but I still had this pinprick of fear. It doesn’t help that he has no such freakouts about it.
I think a lot of my freaking out is stemming from the fact that by getting engaged and marrying I will trulyyyyyyy be, like *gasp* an adult. Something I definitely don’t feel like I am right now.
Lol, came back to this topic and just read the great post by
I guess forever sounds like a scary proposition…but it’s not forever, it’s like…50 years, or so….best case scenario..
Lol, it reminds me of that old joke of .. How does one eat an elephant ??
Answer… one bite at a time.
Looking at the whole Elephant is intimidating… knowing you are gonna attack it just one small bit at a time not so much
And so it goes with marriage.
FOREVER sounds frightening… 50 years not so much… year by year, month by month, week by week… day by day… not so scary at all.
And so it goes.
I’ve spent the last few hours just looking up different stories, re-reading the seriously sweet letters he’s written me, sniffing his pillow (lol yes I’m a weirdo, but damn he smells good!) and the smile on my face has been getting bigger and bigger. I wish it wasn’t only 11am (I’m in Aus) and that it’s 5 and a half hours til he comes home!!!!!!!
Lol, so tell me what does Wednesday ~ April 3rd look like ???
(Now as silly as it seems… This always cracks me up… being able to call myself a time-traveller cause I can literally talk to someone in the future)
I feel the exact same way.
Been dating 6.5 years and we own a house together. I want more than anything to get engaged, but at the same time, it scares the hell out of me. I know the ring is coming within the next few months, I will bug him to see if he has a plan yet on how to propose… it’s all fun and games, until he replies with something serious to show he IS thinking about it. Then that scares me and I back off awhile… lol
It probably has something to do with my horrible anxiety about life in general. But either way, I’m guessing our feelings are normal? 🙂
Mind ya Winters in Oz will never be anything like we see here in Canada (whats cold for you guys… 10 or 12 C vs our continual below Zero for 6 months… and -20 down to -40 here in January)
As for this week, it has been awesome… we are finally above Zero in the daytime… and the snow is melting faaaast and people are really excited to be going out of their houses again after what has been a long cold winter. Canadians, we are a funny bunch… the weather gets above Zero (barely) and you’ll actually see people in shorts in the daytime !!
I freakes out about the “forever” part but as soon as I reminded myself that it was forever with my DH, it calmed me down made me realise I wasnt in this on my own.
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