The thought of forever is freaking me out! Advice please….

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 33
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Helper bee

yes this is very normal…Ask his timeframe. Discuss how you feel about this with him.

Post # 34
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I knew my Fiance was the one on our first date, and I’ve been waiting since. We got officially engaged in march but had talked about it and agreed in december, and I hadnt freaked out one bit. A week ago, he mentioned building a house and buying property and I flipped a switch. Something just clicked that we would be living together and even though right now I have stoooed freaking out and am just super excited, at that moment, my whole world crashed. We would live together. I.Would.Be.A.Wife. There were chores and grocery shopping and cooking and sharing a bathroom and the t.v. and wow I panicked, I wanted to run in the opposite direction as quickly as possible. I told my Fiance and he laughed so hard, hugged me, gave me a kiss on the nose and called me silly, that we were perfect for each other and atuffed an oreo into my mouth. And then I was over it and exited! It will pass because if you were sure at one point and now have no valid reason to not be sure, it just means you’re scared because hell its a HUGE change, and that is scary.

Post # 36
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@janebennett:  

@alsgirl:  

THANK YOU. This is me too! It’s really hard sometimes lol. 

Thank goodness SO puts up with my inability to decide what to have for dinner. 

We’re somewhere between pre-engaged and engaged? We have the wedding roughly planned and the month roughly picked out, all the important actual marriage (after wedding) logistics figured out, and after some crazy crap his big proposal plan didn’t happen so he took me ring shopping and I wound up picking out the ring he’d been eyeing forever without actually knowing (ha!), and I told him I still wanted him to spring an official proposal on me before we told everyone. 

Really I think we just slowly over the course of a lot of conversations dating back several months we easily made a lot of small decisions about what our future (5-10 years) would look like, and one day I woke up and realised that basically the only thing left was that one itsy bitsy detail of agreeing to and planning the actual ceremony in between… It still scares the bajeeses out of me but then I think about how cool it will be to wake up with him every morning. 

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