(Closed) The three great etiquette questions that bemuse me

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2031 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Hahaha, I don’t know proper etiquette, but here’s my thoughts. 1) leave the gloves on, have the priest place communion in your mouth directly (very common) 2) treat each couple as boy/girl, otherwise they would be separated for dinner. 3) perhaps serve breakfast cereal already IN the bowl and let guest add their own milk? LOL I don’t know but this made me giggle 🙂

Post # 4
10573 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

Aspasia, I love reading all your etiquette advice!  I’m nowhere near as knowledgable as you are, but I’ll come up with my best.

I’m not sure about #1, people do not wear gloves to my church.  The bread and grape juice are passed, people remain in the pews.  I would suggest in that case to remove gloves before handling the platters containing the bread and the ‘shot’ glasses of juice.

For #2, I think it’s becoming more and more common to not need equal numbers of males to females.  In my dance circle, some females lead and some males follow, regardless of their sexual preferences.

For #3 (the best advice I have of the 3), there are those containers specifically to keep cereal fresh.  It could be served from one of those.

Post # 5
433 posts
Helper bee


Dear Aspasia,

Very interesting questions. I think can provide a few answers.

Question one:

I wear gloves to church (English Roman Catholic), and I typically take them off and put them in my handbag before I stand up and proceed to the altar to receive communion. That’s what my mother and grandmother did/do, so I simply copied their behaviour.

Question two:

Perhaps you could fall back on traditional etiquette, which states that husbands and wives are not to sit together at dinners? In this case two ladies or two gentlemen are treated as a couple and you would separate them just like you would a husband and wife.

Question three:

I use simple glass containers with lids for breakfast cereals. They look rather like this one http://ak1.polyvoreimg.com/cgi/img-thing/size/l/tid/45838142.jpg and are placed on a separate table. I put a small silver ladle on a separate plate, and let each person serve her-/himself. The milk and fruit juices are served in glass carafes, so I find this solution perfectly acceptable.


Post # 6
1043 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I don’t feel educated enough to answer these.  I simply enjoy reading your posts.  🙂

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