Post # 1
I have been with my boyfriend for over six years, so it’s pretty impossible for our engagement to be a surprise, but I have had some serious inner conflict about helping to choose my engagement ring. I wanted to be surprised in some way, but I am also a VERY picky person (my boyfriend understands this completely). On top of all of this I have always had my heart set on a Tiffany e-ring. I didn’t know how to bring that up to him without sounding like a total brat, and when I did tell him he gave me the whole “It’s not any better it just has Tiffany stamped on the inside”.
We had already been ring shopping at a more commercial retailer and he thought that what we saw was plenty nice and refused to even go look at Tiffany. I asked him to humor me and go check it out, worst case scenario he would be right. Well best case happened and he admitted that he could tell the difference! I will be sacrificing size for my Tiffany e-ring (instead of .95ct it will be more like .80ct) but I couldn’t care less.
I don’t in any way think that other rings are not as good, it’s just that this is what I have always dreamed of for myself.
Any one else have similar experience? Or want to share their Tiffany experience in general?
Post # 3
My view on Tiffany is this. If you really want a Tiffany ring, you will be willing to pay for the markup because you probably won’t be as happy with anything else. Tiffany diamonds are really no better than any other brand’s diamonds, they just have different standards about what they carry and don’t cater to as wide a range of price points as some other retailers. They only carry diamonds of a certain clarity and cutting standard, so that’s why they look “better.” But you can get a diamond that’s just as beautiful almost anywhere else, you just have to do more homework and insist on certs. Their colored rings are a joke, so many of their pearls and colored stones are heated, dyed, glass filled. But they carry the Tiffany stamp so they are every bit as expensive as the rare untreated stuff.
If you have to have Tiffany, you have to have Tiffany! Just don’t think the diamonds are honestly better than a brand like Whiteflash or James Allen or Brian Gavin. They just carry a more prestigious label.
Post # 4
@KatyElle: I agree.
I loved the Tiffany novo setting, but we did not want to pay the ridiculous markup for a stamp on the inside and a little blue box.
Instead we went with an online retailer and got a higher quality diamond (both in color and clarity) for much less in a novo-like setting.
A Tiffany diamond of a certain clarity, cut, carat, and color is NO different than a diamond from a wholesaler or another retailer of the same clarity, cut, carat, and color as long as they are both graded by the same grading agency (i.e. GIA).
I originally really wanted a Tiffany ring, until I realized how much of the price was mark up for the name.
Post # 5
I love Tiffany, I love the beautiful Tiffany store and the customer service I get when I go there. However,there is no way in heck I would forego a bigger, high quality diamond to have a Tiffany ring. You said you don’t care about that, so go for the Tiffany.
Post # 6
@KatyElle: Agreed. A Tiffany E/VVS1 excellent cut is going to be the same as anyone elses E/VVS1 excellent without the mark up and you do just pay more for the name. If youre shopping Kays or Jarads, Tiffany probably looks better cause they will only carry the DEF VS+, keep it super clean since a lot less people shop there on a daily basis, and those lights they have work magic, while the others carry more to cater to lower price points and get touched more throughout the day. But if a Tiffany ring and service makes you happy, I’m not against it at all, just dont be fooled to think they are automatically better.
Post # 7
@KatNYC2011: And your ring is so gorgeous and the diamond quality is fantastic. So a little research can pay off if you’re willing to let go of the attachment to the brand.
Post # 8
@shelleymer: A GIA rated diamond is a GIA rated diamond period. You are paying for the Tiffany name. I own several Tiffany pieces but I would not personally consider them for my e-ring diamond. I am not inerested in paying mark up for an already highly marked up item. If you got the specs of their GIA diamond and compared it to the EXACT diamond specs at Bluenile I’m sure it would be cheaper. Do whatever makes you happy.
Post # 9
My ring is Tiffany. They’re know for being master craftsmen when it comes to settings but the diamonds are the same as anywhere else. Sure, Tiffany doesn’t carry SI or lower grade colours, but that doesn’t mean the diamonds themselves are any better. My VVS1 would be a VVS1 from Tiffany or from Costco. It’s an F if it’s from Tiffany or Jared.
If I hadn’t have a very personal, family reason for choosing Tiffany as a jeweler I wouldn’t have given them a second look. The markup is insane.
Post # 10
@KatyElle: Thanks! Once I realized it could be twice the price for the same ring at Tiffany’s just for the blue box and stamp, it was very easy to detach from the brand.
Post # 11
I agree with PPs that you’re paying for the little blue box. I mean, they sell sterling silver necklaces for $100+ just because they have that “Tiffany” design. I live in NYC and I went to try on rings with my husband before we were engaged. To be completely honest, it was one of the rudest experiences I’ve ever had. And I have a “snarky NYer” filter too.
If you have the money to pay the markup, go for it. But it’s definitely the same type of diamond you could get anywhere else.
He ended up getting my ring in the Diamond District 🙂
Post # 12
Here is an older thread with lots of good discussion about Tiffany, and whether or not it is worth the price
Tiffany: Worth it?
Post # 13
I’m curious if the diamond you tried on at other retailers was of the same specs as the one you tried on at Tiffanys. Like PPs said a diamond is a diamond. A D color, ideal cut, IF clarity based on the same scale (GIA) will be the same anywhere regardless of the name on the box.
I’ve always wanted a Tiffany e-ring as well, and when my Fiance went in to look and saw what he could get with the budget he had he knew couldn’t sacrafice size for a name. He knew what kind of quality diamonds he wanted to buy me so he just went elsewhere and made a semi-custom e-ring for me and I love it. Plus, I have yet to see anyone with the same ring as me.
Post # 14
- Wedding: May 2012 - Salvage One, Chicago
I really liked a Tiffany Legacy ring before I got engaged. But I realized that for the $20k they wanted for either 1 or 1.5 ct. I could spend about half that and get at least 1.5ct in a different setting. To me, the Tiffany name wasn’t worth it, and only you will know. I mean, who goes around saying, “It’s a Tiffany ring” when people ask to see it?
Post # 15
I think that it’s a decision you should make together as a couple. it’s a ring that’s on your hand, but I assume he’s the one paying for it, and it’s something that symbolizes the both of you as a couple.
if you must have tiffany, and you have lots of disposable income, then sure, keep figthting for it. but if he is dead set agains tiffany, and you can’t really afford it, then honestly, I’d let it go. get yourself a good quality ring elsewhere.
Post # 16
@shelleymer:We ended up getting my ring from Blue Nile after Fiance did a LOT of research. I wanted a Tiffany’s ring too, I think just for the name, but in the end, I couldn’t be happier with my ring. My Fiance wanted to get me a bigger diamond of the same quality and set in platinum. My ring would have been 60% MORE expensive if he had gotten it at Tiffany’s.
In the end, it’s the man you love buying you something really special and beautiful, it unless you have a personal connection to a certain jeweler (like a PP), it shouldn’t matter where it comes from.