The Truth About Hors D'oeuvres

posted 2 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Are hors d'oeuvres necessary?
    You MUST have hors d'oeuvres during cocktail hour : (89 votes)
    86 %
    Not needed : (15 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 16
    6790 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I agree with PPs, people will not be eating dinner until 7:30/8:00 or so but will have started drinking at 6:30. Some kind of food is necessary. 

    Post # 17
    4587 posts
    Honey bee

    The 6 o’clock start time is a good point.  If this were a brunch or lunch time maybe where drinking is much lighter.  But for a 6 start, I want to make sure I get there at least 15 minutes ahead (545), let’s say It will take me a half hour to get there park and get into the venue if I’m local (515), I’ll have probably been running errands all day/working out/etc. so I’ll probably shower, do full hair, and make-up which will probably take me about an hour (415).  So if I ate a snack, it was probably at least 2.5 hours prior to the start of cocktail hour and lunch was probably 6 hours prior. 

    That’s an awfully empty stomach on which to drink booze.  Even if cocktail hour is shorter than normal, booze on a completely empty stomach makes me feel ill, which means I enjoy your party far less.

    Post # 20
    324 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    Yes, definitely have food even if it’s snacks, cheese and crackers, fruit, etc. If I went to a wedding and the cocktail hour was short, I’d still be looking for food. Even if your dinner is at 7:15 pm, the food doesn’t come out right away if people do speeches, first dance, etc. so you’ll want to make sure people don’t get overly drunk by drinking a lot on empty stomachs.

    Post # 21
    35 posts
    • Wedding: October 2017

    tiffy127 :  Even if you don’t drink much,  you need the food.  I get drunk with a single beer if my stomach is empty. 

    Post # 22
    13684 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Agreed with PPs – it’s a bad idea to serve booze without food.

    Post # 23
    3532 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    thatgirlelle :  I’m usually starving by the time the ceremony is over and those little bites at cocktail hour really help to tide people over to dinner (and keep them from getting smashed by drinking on an empty stomach)

    Post # 24
    1256 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    Yes, I would appreciate something to eat during cocktail hour with my drink.

    Post # 25
    14 posts
    • Wedding: May 2018

    Definitely agree if people are going to start drinking you need food but heres another way to look at it. Assume all of your guests leave about an hour-ish before your ceremony. They probably didnt eat dinner at 430, they at most had a small snack. So after the ceremony its been at least 2 hours and at least one more hour before everyone in the place is served dinner. I think that a small snack is definitely going to be appreciated. Definitely keep the hor devours light even if its a few passed and a veggie platter, people will definitely eat it. Besides, I always go to weddings on an empty stomach knowing there will be lots of food!

    Post # 26
    192 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: February 2018

    If you want, I can tell you the REAL truth about hors d’oeuvres…

    As someone who has planned and work several catering events I can tell you that they are not worth it. Some venues recommned that there are at least 2-3 hors d’oeuvres per guest and they sell those for $2-5 PER PIECE!! Seriously, $3 for a piece of coconut shrimp or a bacon wrapped scallop! Not only that but say you have 100 people at your wedding and you order 300 pieces because they sell you to make you feel like people won’t have a good time if they aren’t well fed. Well all of those pieces aren’t event eaten by your guests…. I can’t tell you how many hors d’oeuvres I’ve eaten off of a plate that I was supposed to be serving because I was starving and not allowed a dinner break during the wedding. Then times that by the 3-5 servers that you have working and the kitchen staff. Is it right, no. But I was young and hungry and didn’t think anything of it. So I would say your best option is go with a cheese board or something that is less expensive and is out on the floor for only your guests to eat. 

    Post # 27
    403 posts
    Helper bee

    I agree with.everyone else! Were going to just have bruchetta and a couple other small passed things, but I’m happy with any sort of cheese and crackers/ veggies. I think the nut idea with a cheese display or veggies would be perfect

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