(Closed) The types of men to avoid like the plague

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Worker bee

Haha I’ve dated a few of these, namely the Mamma’s Boy and the Overgrown Man Child (both desperately needed a mother more than a girlfriend). Unfortunately, I know a group of guys that fall perfectly into the My Friends Pick My Girl for Me, and it’s so sad to see them cycle through perfectly great girls because one of their buddies isn’t into her. I think this particular group could also be dubbed I Only Have A Girlfriend When My Friends Do, as they all seem to get in and out of relationships at the same time. It’s so bizarre.

My last boyfriend didn’t really fit into any of these categories. He was a heartbreaker, but not for any of the obvious reasons. Still trying to figure out how to categorize him…

Post # 5
Hostess
11167 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Preach it! Goodness knows we women know this already and still fall into those traps.

I was previously engaged to an overgrown man child and it was the most frustrating and exhausting relationship I have ever been in. He was 12 years old than me and I was the adult in the relationship. Don’t get me started on how he continually shirked his responsibilities to his daughter!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I wonder if there are men out there who have something written like this about women…

The overly clingy, checks my text messages woman…

The desperate push down the aisle woman…

The validate my level of attractiveness woman…

Haha.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@TexasSpringBride:  Agree w. the player one for sure – my ex was like that lol. He also was this:

The all about image guy. He spends way above his means to give the impression that he is well off when in fact, he’s up to his eyeballs in debt. He doesn’t have a great job, and he thinks he is entitled to everything. He guilts you into paying for things, and always has a great excuse. He thinks you should be his sugar momma. He’s always onto the next get rich quick scheme, but lacks the ambition to do anything about it. STAY AWAY from this guy!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Well, well, I have dated each one of those men in my life time thank God I am older and wiser. I feel so bad for those women who have to go through their phase in life. We know that in every relationship there is a lesson to learn and sometime these men help us to see what we are doing wrong and how we should improve our minds and self esteem so we do not pick one of these sorry specimens. Thank you so much for the post I truly enjoyed reading it and laughing because it was all true.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

The only one I disagree on is “the Bachelor.” As someone who started my first and only really serious relationship when I was 26, and am now head over heels in love, I can say that some people just want to hold off until they meet the right person…and when they meet that person, they commit with all their heart.

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

i’ve definitely dated quite a few of these guys.   i even dated a guy who claimed he was just “metro-sexual” but i have a feeling he was kidding himself.  is that kind of guy on the list?

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

There’s also the nice guy and the good guy. The good guy does things for you because he’s genuinely a good person and wants to do the right thing. If you reject him, he’ll take it like a champ.

However, the nice guy is only your friend because he wants you. He’s almost like the good guy, but he does everything not because he wants to do it, but because he wants to get in your pants. Then when you start dating another person, he says he’s been “friend zoned.” despite never having said anything in the first place.

 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Haha, this is a funny thread! So true though. I have two to add:

The Philosopher who Screws with Societal Norms: He will go on and on and on about his philosophy and thoughts and rationalizations and “mindfulness” and “self-awareness” and “challenging what society thinks” and at first be interested in what you have to say, but then he might want more logical, philosophical, deep input than you could ever provide or want to share with someone you just met. . . and then he will get bored with you because you are too conventional or too prudish or private or something, and dump you. He might also be kind of unmotivated and pathetic when it comes to the realities of daily life. . . and may wear things that are extremely unconventional and just, well, weird.

And then, there is Indecisive Hot-And-Cold Man: who one time when you see him, he’s lovely and friendly and wants to see you again soon and can’t get enough of you. Then, next time, he’s all moody and grumpy and cold and says mean things to and about you, and then when you call him out on it he gets really mad and will ignore you! And he can NEVER decide on ANYTHING, so you have to decide for him, and then, depending on what mood he’s in, he’s either fine with it, or he’s secretly not fine with it and is grumpy and rude the rest of the day. . . and you never know which it’ll be. ARGH. Talk about an emotional rollercoaster! (This is emotionally abusive behavior, by the way.)

Can you tell I dated one of each of these? Thank goodness they are exes!
 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

The aging rock star that wears hair extensions. Avoid!

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Oh man. Been there with the overgrown manchild for sure. Good post haha.

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