Post # 1
I have been all over reading the boards today to find an answer to my dilemma. My office consists of about 15 people. I have been working here for just one year. During this time I’ve only become close with three people. I haven’t hang out with them outside of work per say, unless going out to have lunch counts. However, I am planning on inviting them bc I am always talking about wedding stuff and other personal stuff with them.
Having decided that, I am now pondering whether or not to invite my superiors. I have a direct supervisor who I report to and who does my evaluations etc. She’s the CTA Manager (I’m a CTA). I also have a Project Manager who I work with everyday. Then there is the Vice President of the place. He travels a lot back and forth to Europe and when he is in the office, he’s inside his office on meetings non stop. I think I can count how many times I’ve actually talked to him. Matter of fact, I don’t even know how I would approach him to ask him for his home address to mail an invitation!
I have more interaction with the CTA Manager and Project Manager even though I’m not particularly close with them.
My BIG question is… should I invite all three superiors? Should I NOT invite them and just invite those three coworkers? Should I invite the CTA Manager and Project Manager and NOT the VP?
I need help… I’ve developed a headache just by writing this email. LOL
PS. My wedding is June 8th… and so I’m beginning to get my invites ready…
Post # 3
I posted a similar question/concern about a week ago about my Fiance inviting his boss.
Invite the people that you want there and the people who care most about your well-being and your FI’s well-being. I don’t think you should invite all of these bosses.
Post # 4
Just invite the people you are close with. Just because they are your supervisors doesn’t mean they automatically get an invite and like you said you aren’t close with them so if you do invite them it may look gift grabby.
Post # 5
If you are not close with the supervisors, don’t invite them. Its not like you are inviting the whole office except for the bosses — you are only inviting 3 people, and they are the ones you are actually close to.
Sometimes people feel burdened by an invitation to a coworkers wedding that they are not close with, anyway. The VP, for example, may not want to go because he doesn’t really even know you, but may feel awkward declining for fear it will make him look bad. Same thing with your boss. Could be an awkward situation.
Post # 6
this is why i’m glad the wedding is out of state – it gave me an excuse to not invite anyone from the office!
I say given your relationship and position in the company, just invite the 3 you are close with.
Post # 7
I don’t like the whole inviting co-worker thing. If you hang out with them outside of work, sure. If not, then no. I just told everyone I work with that its a small intimate wedding with family only. They are like certain family members…you invite A and B, then you have to invite C, D, E and F..and probably G, if not then they’ll get mad and hold a grudge. Last place you want people pissed off at you is at a work place.
Post # 8
Yeah I don’t feel comfortable about inviting the bosses bc even though they may ask about wedding details from time to time, I don’t see myself having a casual conversation outside of the office with them. And to be honest, I’m just scared of the VP! He along with the CTA Manager were the ones who interviewed me and he scared me from the beginning to the point I thought I blew the interview. LOL….
Thank you bees for making me feel better about this situation. My parents think it’s “proper” to invite them, but I simply don’t feel comfortable even asking for their address!
Post # 9
If you don’t hang out with them outside of work, then don’t invite any of them.
Post # 10
@futuremrsguerra: Nah, I wouldn’t invite them. If you’re not close to them, it is just out of obligation.
Not sure I’d invite any of my coworkers unless I was having a huge wedding, and I talk about personal stuff to plenty of them.
Nothing wrong w. keeping work/personal life separate.